3 Fat Chicks on a Diet Weight Loss Community  

Go Back   3 Fat Chicks on a Diet Weight Loss Community > Support Forum > Weight Loss Support

Weight Loss Support Give and get support here!

Can anybody get me to step on my scale?

Reply
 
Thread Tools
Old 08-19-2011, 04:04 PM   #1
Junior Member
 
Bethsheba's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2011
Posts: 3

S/C/G: 200/200/145

Height: 5' 5"

Default Can anybody get me to step on my scale?

Hey y'all- I need help facing up to reality. Its been over a year since I step on a scale and I'm afraid to do it.

3 years ago i was in good shape, Fit and ~150lbs which looks good on me. But my personal life was miserable. Then I got on Zoloft and the pounds start to creep up slowly. Low and behold I met a great guy, fell in love, got on birth control and exploded 160 to 170 to 180...

I kept trying to stave off the weight loss but nothing worked. I stop the birth control, stop the zoloft. Its like my body has changed. I mean I've been heavy before maybe 20-30 lbs overwieght. But nothing like this rapid gain and fat that doesnt seem to care how few calories I eat.

So I stopped weighing my self because it was too discouraging although I've never stopped exercising or watching what I eat. Now I'm to scared to get back on the scale.

I was hoping you guys on 3FC could help me over this hurtle...
Bethsheba is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 08-19-2011, 04:21 PM   #2
Senior Member
 
pointspluspioneer's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2010
Location: Bean Town, MA
Posts: 514

S/C/G: 221/see tracker/150

Height: 5'4"

Default

I could have written your thread i know exactly how you feel. I was down to 170 and over the years it's crept up and i'm at 200 again I was down 18 lbs. by May but had surgery and gained it back and no matter what i do, nothing budges.

I don't have any real words of wisdom just that your not alone, i think about the scale and my weight 95% of the day, it's ruined me! I got on anti-depressants that didn't cause weight gain as that's part of my depression.
__________________



For every 5 lbs. lost!
pointspluspioneer is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 08-19-2011, 04:24 PM   #3
Starting again
 
shishkeberry's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2005
Posts: 787

S/C/G: 289/ticker/128

Height: 5'4"

Default

Stepping on the scale won't suddenly make you heavier. But if you do get on it, then you know what you're working with. Living in denial isn't going to help. Fortunately, posting here does! You can do it and we'll be here to help.
__________________



Current mini-goal: Get back to where I was in February (205)

Positive things I need to remember:
I'm at a better starting point since I didn't gain it all back yet.
I quit smoking cold turkey in Nov 2011.
I'm still trying so I can't say I've failed.
shishkeberry is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 08-19-2011, 04:31 PM   #4
Dukanista
 
April Snow's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2011
Location: Denver
Posts: 2,547

S/C/G: high263/current257/ticker/198

Height: 5'7"

Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by shishkeberry View Post
Stepping on the scale won't suddenly make you heavier. But if you do get on it, then you know what you're working with. Living in denial isn't going to help. Fortunately, posting here does! You can do it and we'll be here to help.
exactly what I was going to say. You've taken the first step by joining here, now take the next step towards taking back your body and your life.
__________________
Restart 1/6/13 - GOAL (for now) back to prior low

HAPPY SPRING & APRIL FOOLS CHALLENGE
April Snow is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 08-19-2011, 04:32 PM   #5
Senior Member
 
kelly315's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2008
Location: Columbus OH
Posts: 2,524

S/C/G: 290/ticker/145

Height: 5'4"

Default

It sounds to me like you feel out of control, and it's time to take some of that control back. For me, stepping on the scale at my heaviest was painful, but once it was over I realized it wasn't as bad as spending all that time wondering.

As you spend more time on this site, you'll see a lot of people doing a lot of different things to take back control of their lives. But there is a pattern of those who are successful- they put in an effort to know what's going on with their bodies and what they're doing to them. For me, that means stepping on the scale and measuring myself, as well as counting calories. At first, I just counted the calories while eating normally, and it helped me to understand what I was doing to myself and why I was gaining weight. Some days I would eat as many as 4,000 calories!

It seems like you're afraid right now, but the best thing on earth for dispelling fear is knowledge. Just like you can't be afraid of the monster under the bed if you actually take a look under the bed, you can't be afraid of your weight if you take the time to learn about your body, your calories, how weight loss works, etc. So my advice to you is to stick around- learn everything you can, including everything you can about yourself. Maybe, for you, part of that means stepping on the scale.
__________________

Started July 1, 2012 @ 290lbs
kelly315 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 08-19-2011, 04:40 PM   #6
Member
 
wabrouq's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2011
Location: Wisconsin
Posts: 32

S/C/G: 212/Ticker/125

Height: 5'3"

Default

I'm sure most of us have been there at one point or another. I didn't even own a functioning scale for several years! I had no idea how much I weighed...just that my clothes didn't fit anymore!!

The first thing I did when I decided to get serious about my health and losing weight was buy a really nice digital scale. I was scared to weigh myself too! But once I saw the numbers on the display...that was all the motivation I needed to get started.

Good luck!! You can do it!!
__________________
wabrouq is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 08-19-2011, 04:40 PM   #7
back to square 1(70)
 
ahyessophie's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2011
Location: Toronto
Posts: 350

S/C/G: 176/170/150

Height: 5'5.5''

Default

The number on the scale isn't going to change what you see in the mirror everyday. It's good to not be obsessed by the scale, but I think it's worth facing the fear and fully accepting what you weigh.

Ultimately, it can prove to be beneficial for you as you track your progress. You're clearly committed to this loss if you have joined 3FC, so at least know that the number you see won't be there much longer.

I have a friend who won't step on a scale. She avoids check-ups at the doctor's because she doesn't want to be weighed and scolded for her weight gain. I told her pretty much what I am telling you - once you get on it once, the first time is over. You can come to terms with the quantification of your weight loss, and then move on to make positive change. We all know we've gained weight... we see it as clothes get tighter and our faces change in photos. Somehow we build up our weight in lbs as somehow more important than changes in dress size, but it's no different.

Who knows, you might find it a bit liberating to know you can muster up the confidence to conquer the scale.
__________________
outofmyweigh.wordpress.com

S 37-31-43
C 36-29-42
G 38-27-39 (tentative)
ahyessophie is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 08-19-2011, 04:42 PM   #8
Member
 
wabrouq's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2011
Location: Wisconsin
Posts: 32

S/C/G: 212/Ticker/125

Height: 5'3"

Default

I totally agree with kelly315...

Knowledge is POWER!! Embrace it!!!
__________________
wabrouq is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 08-19-2011, 05:02 PM   #9
Senior Member
 
ShihtzuX2's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2002
Posts: 126

Default

When I've been afraid to step on the scale (and end the living in denial about why my clothes were "shrinking"), I tell myself it's only a number and a starting place - not an indictment on my character or my worth as a person (altho that's how I've perceived it many times).

As long as I avoided stepping on the scale, I felt freer to continue living in denial and not feeling responsible for my eating, my weight, my health as I ate and ate some more.

Even if the number isn't what you want to see, it IS EMPOWERING to face up to it and make peace with yourself about it rather than beat yourself up for it.

Say to yourself, To measure my progress, I need to know what my weight is now. This number on the scale today simply indicates my starting point, what do I need to do from this moment on to get to my goal weight?
__________________
ShihtzuX2 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 08-19-2011, 05:09 PM   #10
Sarcastic Non-Chick Chick
 
Gabe's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2011
Location: NW Chi-burbs
Posts: 224

S/C/G: 360/192/150

Height: 5'7"

Default

Once you've quantified a problem, you can start formulating a solution. This applies to lots of things, including weight loss. In order to know how far you need to go, you need to know where you're starting from. Of course, I say this as someone who avoided scales for the first six weeks of her weight loss, so I might be a bit of a hypocrite.

I regret not doing it at first, because I can't now say, "oh, I've lost precisely 63.2 pounds!" I have to say, "oh, around fifty-sixtyish." This is much less impressive when you're bragging about your success .

Seriously, though; an unknown is always scarier than the known--'cause once you know it, you can kick its butt. So know your weight, own it, and then kick it to the curb.
Gabe is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 08-19-2011, 06:18 PM   #11
Every pound is a victory
 
rainydays's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2010
Location: Midwest, US
Posts: 1,477

S/C/G: 263/147/?

Height: 5' 6"

Default

Number on the scale going down=serious motivation. Get a starting point and get in there!
__________________
New goal: Be a healthy-eating, trim and FIT beast at the gym! 140ish pounds, but the focus is on looking and feeling good--HEALTH!!!

Walk To Mordor by September 2013! http://www.3fatchicks.com/forum/chic...lk-mordor.html Miles Traveled: 45/1779
Before/After Picture Thread!
http://www.3fatchicks.com/forum/mini...bs-go-pic.html
rainydays is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 08-19-2011, 06:27 PM   #12
Forty IS Fabulous!!
 
Mariposa24's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2011
Location: New England
Posts: 38

S/C/G: 255/ticker/180

Height: 5'2"

Default

You do need a starting point--watching the #s go down is exciting!
__________________
Mariposa24 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 08-20-2011, 10:05 AM   #13
Member
 
kelly585's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2011
Location: Ontario, Canada
Posts: 82

S/C/G: 203/185.5/149

Height: 5'6

Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by Mariposa24 View Post
You do need a starting point--watching the #s go down is exciting!

I agree... its only a number and not worth wondering what it will say.... you have to start some place! You can do it!
kelly585 is offline   Reply With Quote
Reply
Posts by members, moderators and admins are not considered medical advice
and no guarantee is made against accuracy.


Thread Tools

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

vB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off

Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
November - Wind up to Winter Mel Weight and Resistance Training 109 12-01-2010 10:00 AM
The Race to 199! Join Us! Girlie Support Groups 4386 05-18-2007 11:29 AM
300+ And Ready to Try Again...#977 AmmiUK 300+ Club 38 08-13-2006 11:23 PM
Is anybody up for the challenge!!!! e.mccoy Weight Watchers 239 11-27-2005 11:01 PM


All times are GMT -4. The time now is 05:24 PM.






Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.6.7
Copyright ©2000 - 2015, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.
Search Engine Optimization by vBSEO 3.3.2