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Old 07-06-2011, 08:46 AM   #1
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Does anyone have tips for how to be comfortable naked? Looking back, I've never really been able to walk around nude in front of boyfriends. When the lights are off, I'm cool, but in daylight or lights on, it would be a miracle for someone to see me totally nude. I always hear/read about people walking around naked in front of their partner, and all I can do is wonder how (and wish I could do the same). I'm not really sure what the problem is. With the exception of a couple of things, I actually feel my body is pretty hot. If only I could show it off more. Any tips?
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Old 07-06-2011, 09:31 AM   #2
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Start with dim lighting or minimal clothing and work on it from there? Throw caution to the wind and do a silly little dance (a basic wiggle will do, if like me you can't dance for toffee) for your partner? Do you actually have a partner right now, by the way, or is this more a general pattern thing?
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I try and have a sense of humour about it. Don't be afraid about an unflattering angle or motion. Doing something silly (like a goofy dance move or something...I don't know how to describe it on here) always makes me feel a bit tense if I catch myself focusing too much on a "flaw." It's also important to just DO it even if you're uncomfortable. If there's something you'd normally do with the lights off, try it with the lights on even if only for a bit. After a few times I think you'll feel more at ease. Remind yourself of how close to goal you are - you've put in hard work! Be free, you earned it.
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It is all in self esteem.
I've got a high self esteem so I strut my stuff in front of my fiance all the time.
We live together and I don't have kids yet so I actually am naked all day now in the summer. I just wear panties for hygiene reasons.
It really comes natural after a while. He's just in his boxers too, so why shouldn't I do it?
Imo naked bodies are always sexier than dressed ones.
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I don't know, I am not comfortable naked. I was always very uncomfortable with my ex-boyfriends. Lights out for me! I have zero self esteem in that regard.

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I have zero self esteem when it comes to being naked. I'm completely disproportionate with small boobs/bum and all my weight is clinging to my stomach & I'm completely aware that this doesn't look nice.

My boyfriend, however, plays rugby and gets naked in front of 30 guys on a weekly basis and is very much comfortable in his own skin. It's quite inspiring to see him wandering about.

I'm not quite there yet, but he has given me a bit more body confidence.

I say, go for underwear you feel comfortable in.
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It takes time, go slowly from skimpy outfits to bra & panties and then one piece at a time to nudity.

And it's been my experience that when nekkid in front of a man - the Beevis & Butthead mentality takes over - "Boobies!" so he won't see any flaws just nekkidness. We are way more critical than any man.
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For me it takes time. The first few times I get naked with someone I am very self conscious. But after awhile it's like they've already seen it and haven't run away screaming, so what's the big deal. It still takes me several months to be comfortable though.

Or, you could attend a drunken, naked swim party. Last summer I had access to a private pool for a few weeks and a group of friends did this. It helps to see that nobody's perfect. Plus, I realized that I wasn't scrutinizing anyone else, so most likely neither were they. It was fun, casual, and helped me feel better about myself (this was at my highest weight).
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Does anyone have tips for how to be comfortable naked?
Take the NIKE approach: "just do it!"

Maybe it will help if you look at it in the "naked is natural" light. Clothing is not a natural thing. Nakedness is natural. In fact, it's the most natural thing a human being can do - go naked. The human body is a beautiful thing. More art has been contributed to the naked human body than any other single thing on earth. Maybe start out by looking at some "naked body" art form - and no, I'm not talking about porn! - altho, IMHO, porn is also an art form (tho not one everybody seems to appreciate). Pictures, sculptures, etc. Naked women and men, and OMG -how precious is a naked baby?!?!?! Cute little baby butts! The epitome of sweetness and innocence. We're ALL born naked! Can't get any more natural than that!

You might like to visit photonaturals-dot-com ...and NO, it's NOT porn. ~enjoy being YOU!
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I have been working my way up to doing this myself. I am back in the dating scene so it's time to prepare for the hopefully inevitable.

Start with being comfortable naked alone. When you get ready for work in the morning do your hair and makeup naked. Or start slow and just do it in your bra and underwear. Once you are comfortable with yourself, you'll be more comfortable with someone else. The more you get in tune with your own body it will make you feel more comfortable as you know what other people see!

Lately, and I laugh as I type this, I have been setting up my webcam and recording myself walking in and out of my bedroom naked. Or I'll stand in front of it and pose. This gets me from ALL angles -- flattering and not so flattering. I'll record it as a video and replay it later. And then I immediately DELETE!
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Old 07-06-2011, 01:30 PM   #11
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Take the NIKE approach: "just do it!"

Maybe it will help if you look at it in the "naked is natural" light. Clothing is not a natural thing. Nakedness is natural. In fact, it's the most natural thing a human being can do - go naked. The human body is a beautiful thing. More art has been contributed to the naked human body than any other single thing on earth. Maybe start out by looking at some "naked body" art form - and no, I'm not talking about porn! - altho, IMHO, porn is also an art form (tho not one everybody seems to appreciate). Pictures, sculptures, etc. Naked women and men, and OMG -how precious is a naked baby?!?!?! Cute little baby butts! The epitome of sweetness and innocence. We're ALL born naked! Can't get any more natural than that!

You might like to visit photonaturals-dot-com ...and NO, it's NOT porn. ~enjoy being YOU!
that is a cool website! i agree, too, that naked is natural and i've never had any problems being naked in front of my DH (or partners before him)....on the other hand, i read on the website about an upcoming nudist camping trip into the wilderness and all i could think about was "Holy Bug Bites!!" LOL!
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I am a very modest person and I didn't think I would ever be comfortable naked in front of anyone, but first of all, if you are with someone who is comfortable with their own body, it helps you get comfortable too. Plus, people!!! if you are having sex, they KNOW what you look like and what you feel like!!!!

Soft light in the bedroom helps, but man, when we were young and without kids - a morning romp in the bedroom was fun and you see it all.

But as my mother said, and I find it true too, once you have a baby, all modesty goes out the window. My husband saw it all plus some during delivery. Heck, he had to help me to the toilet (I lost a lot of blood and was weak) after delivery. After that, no more feeling awkward in front of him ever again and it's quite freeing actually.
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It may also be worth mentioning that when I do silly little dances/wiggles for my other half, usually for reasons such as just having got out of the shower, getting undressed at night, feeling affectionate, feeling sexy, feeling silly, or wanting to stretch, I will get one of the following reactions:

1) "Get over here, you hot hot thing."
2) "You are absolutely daft, my darling, and I love you."

and very occasionally,

3) "Yes, sweetheart, you're a champion wiggler, but I'm trying to get to work here."

But he definitely approves of me being naked. And I approve of him being naked too, whatever his body looks like, and sometimes rather inconveniently when he's trying to get dressed to go out for the evening and I'm standing in the way ogling him. I've actually found that being the one doing the looking has been very liberating, and not just because I've read feminist theory such as "Visual Pleasure and Narrative Cinema" (essential article if you're interested in how society constructs men as the ones doing the looking and women as the ones being looked at).

How about spending time naked curled up in bed to watch TV? Most of the time you're under the covers, and you can get used to making trips to the loo or to fetch strawberries (we have strawberries while watching TV in the way that other couples have popcorn) or what have you, with the kitchen curtains drawn if need be.

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Thanks so much for all the advice. I'm actually quite comfortable naked by myself. I think I look pretty good...womanly. I have a young son so I don't get to be naked too often, but when school was in, I'd walk around naked for hours after showering after my workout. My blinds would even be open (fenced in backyard lol). It's just being naked in light/daylight with another person that makes me uncomfortable. I don't know what's wrong with me.

I have been trying though. I've slept totally naked with my boyfriend for the past 4 or 5 days and made trips to the bathroom during the night. Just need to work my way up. Or maybe I do need to do what some of you have suggested: just do it and get it over.
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It may also be worth mentioning that when I do silly little dances/wiggles for my other half, usually for reasons such as just having got out of the shower, getting undressed at night, feeling affectionate, feeling sexy, feeling silly, or wanting to stretch, I will get one of the following reactions:

1) "Get over here, you hot hot thing."
2) "You are absolutely daft, my darling, and I love you."

and very occasionally,

3) "Yes, sweetheart, you're a champion wiggler, but I'm trying to get to work here."

But he definitely approves of me being naked. And I approve of him being naked too, whatever his body looks like, and sometimes rather inconveniently when he's trying to get dressed to go out for the evening and I'm standing in the way ogling him. I've actually found that being the one doing the looking has been very liberating, and not just because I've read feminist theory such as "Visual Pleasure and Narrative Cinema" (essential article if you're interested in how society constructs men as the ones doing the looking and women as the ones being looked at).

How about spending time naked curled up in bed to watch TV? Most of the time you're under the covers, and you can get used to making trips to the loo or to fetch strawberries (we have strawberries while watching TV in the way that other couples have popcorn) or what have you, with the kitchen curtains drawn if need be.
Aha, I read that at university and I couldn't agree more--it's so liberating to act out-with social constructed norms.


I remember weaning myself in with wearing a big t-shirt, but nothing else... I know it's essentially shamelessly graphic, but I found the suggestion of nudity easier than actually walking naked. And this was when I was a lot heavier, too.
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