People come here to 3fc seeking support in their weight-loss journey. They leave because they think they haven't received the support they think they need, or because they have fallen off the weight-loss wagon, or because they have found another weight-loss forum that they like better. Or probably they have other reasons for disappearing. . . . Who knows?
Actually the members of 3fc are very helpful and supportive.
But people are human.
A weight-loss journey has many twists and curves in it. It is never a straight line from start to finish. So many fall by the wayside, and we never hear from them again. That's sad.
I have been accused in the past of causing an individual to falter in their weight-loss journey because I didn't give the support that particular individual thought I should give. I was being as supportive as I know how to be, but it evidently wasn't sufficient.
That is probably why I am a bit reluctant to become a buddy for anyone.
I can only do what I can do.
There is no perfect answer to the question the OP presented. I don't have the solution, although I wish I did.
I guess I will just keep plugging along, doing the best I can.