Trying to be objetive an thoughtful,and considerate, but,

[LisaP916]

Originally Posted by Nola Celeste

I thought the Island of Misfit Toys was an obscure Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer reference. (That was the one, right? I know I loved those stop-motion animation Christmas shows as a kid, but they got a little scrambled up in my little kid brain.) Not that I don't love South Park, too, though--so either way, it's all good.

And yeah, there are a very few posts that make me think, "Oh, geez, grow a pair of ovaries!" But I don't have to read them or answer them if I choose not to. 3FC is a friendly haven to so many people; I don't need to make it feel unfriendly to others even if I think an unfriendly thought or three in the privacy of my own computer room.

It is Rudolph. You are correct.

And I generally think "Oh, geez, grow a spine already!" only because I don't have ovaries. LMAO!

[Nola Celeste]

Ah, good point--everyone has a spine!

[DixC Chix]

My mistake - South Park had the Island of Misfit Mascots!

[Nola Celeste]

South Park and Rudolph are both excellent and make me crave a night of vegetating in front of the TV with some DVDs and some popcorn, so if I decide to do that instead of getting some work done tonight, I'm blaming you both.

[txladymedic]

We all need to vent sometimes...I do at times feel like you do but on the other hand I do my fair share of complaining on here so I can't say anything.
On the other hand I sometimes feel like that's what the forum is for....to give us a place to vent...even if it does feel petty to us and/or others.
You've definitely had your share of struggles....and it sounds like you could stand a big hug! So here's a hug!

[milmin2043]

shcirerf-I just wanted to give you several big hugs

What I read from your post is that you need a little TLC. That is totally understandable. Caregivers to sick people are some of the most overlooked of all. It's always about the sick person. I don't have a lot to offer except to say that I feel for you and hope that things start to look up for you very soon.

[mandalinn82]

Lots and lots and lots of big for you.

First, I agree that you need some TLC. Make sure you're doing something, every day, that takes care of you, even for a few minutes. It's so important!

It's helpful for me, when I find myself feeling frustrated at other's challenges as they compare to mine, to remember this...the worst you've ever felt feels the same to everyone. Some of us have a lot more to get us to "worst". But that means we have additional resilience for those smaller issues. Some people's "worst" is, comparatively, less bad than what I have gone through. And there are always others whose "worst" is worse than I could even imagine. Having that perspective helps me to let go of the frustration...because if I'm at my worst, the last thing I need is frustration on top of what else is going on.

Focus on you and taking care of you, and be grateful that your life has given you experiences that made you resilient against the smaller stresses that others may be more upset by. And remember that, to someone else, your challenges might feel insignificant in comparison to what they are facing.