Am I excessive? Have you been told this?

YoYoKimmy · 05-13-2011, 05:53 AM

I agree with the lady that said one person's excessive is another person's passion and dedication. Let your body be your guide. If it hurts, feel weak, etc, then you'll know. Congrats on your accomplishments!

Riestrella · 05-13-2011, 06:14 AM

Short answer: No! I hate those people who are like "just love who you are." Maybe I don't love who I am and want to lose weight so I CAN love me IS THERE A PROBLEM WITH THAT?!

Girls have this annoying habit of saying "You're fine the way you are, you look great, you're not fat" blah blah blah - it's like it's inbuilt system to say everything to make that girl feel better! Which is great in some occasions but when it's just straight up denial then it's a bit of an issue.

But the truth is: You're want to lose weight, you're dieting = that's perfectly fine. No, it's not excessive, if you were on some fad diet or not eating at all - that's excessive! Your plan sounds great, and you've seen results - maybe you're just making them feel badly about their own lifestyle choices =p

Beach Patrol · 05-13-2011, 12:20 PM

It's not about "excessive" or "not excessive" - it's about BOUNDARIES. Your co-workers ain't got'nee!!!

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My co-worker said, “Is that all you are eating for lunch? Are you starving yourself now!?” And of course, another gal joined in. When I explained what I was doing the conversation turned into, “You’re being excessive and you need to just love your body the way it is.”

Had it been me, I'd have said: "Thanks for your input, but I didn't ask."

I really hate it when people tell ME what *I* should be doing, whether it's my diet, my clothes, my hairstyle, whether or not to have another tattoo, where that tattoo might be placed, etc. If I ASK - that's soliciting advice - & it's fine! - if not, I feel no remorse in telling them to STFU.... IN A NICE WAY, of course.

LandonsBaby · 05-13-2011, 01:31 PM

I don't tell people what I am or am not doing (aside from a few good friends). So, no I don't get any crap. That being said I don't see anything wrong with what you are doing.

georgeshair · 05-13-2011, 01:50 PM

One of my work colleagues asked me this morning if I'd read the book Intuitive Eating. I said No. She then told me very forcefully that 'Diets NEVER work - EVER' ( ignoring the fact that I've obviously lost weight over the past few months!) I said sarcastically, 'Thanks very much for your support'. She then got huffy and said - 'Well, if it's working for you, you can carry on with it!' I just left it there, but I was thinking 'Wow - thanks so much for your permission!'

Some people are just like that. (My colleague, for example, is known for being opinionated and forcing her views on others.) I think their behaviour says far more about them than about you.

She's overweight, by the way.

mj5 · 05-13-2011, 02:04 PM

If its working for you and its a healthy plan (which it sounds like it is), then they need to mind their own business.

My sister in law recently FREAKED out because I was eating a cup of green grapes (too much sugar, she said). I asked what she was having for dinner (she constantly complains that she is going to TOPS meetings, eating well and not losing weight). She was having battered, fried processed fish pieces and "homemade" fried french fries. I smirked and enjoyed my grapes. That week....I lost 3lbs, she gained 2. I think I'll stick to my way of eating

georgeshair · 05-14-2011, 01:13 PM

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Originally Posted by JohnP

Have you heard the parable of the crabs in a bucket? If not, google it.

I've just googled it. THanks, John, I've never heard this parable before. On one of the sites that quotes it, it suggests that if you don't want to be pulled back by the other crabs, you should decide to be a lobster instead. Lobsters are independent and don't care if another lobster decides to crawl out of the pot. Here's the link. Sorry if it doesn't work , my ipad's a bit unreliable when it comes to pasting links. http://www.birdsontheblog.co.uk/the-bucket-of-crabs/

Kaonashi · 05-14-2011, 07:51 PM

Ugh. The Food Police people would be a lot better off paying attention to what THEY are having for lunch instead of giving out unsolicited advice. The things you've mentioned don't sound excessive at all; it sounds reasonable and healthy and if it's working for you that's even better!

There are people who will want you to stay the same because that's what THEY feel comfortable with, and once you know who they are you learn to take everything they say with a grain of salt. Keep doing what works for you and ignore the harpies.

fatferretfanatic · 05-14-2011, 08:44 PM

You're doing well doing what you're doing. So, if you like it, don't change it. I think these women are feeling a little insecure with themselves and want to see it effect you. Just say, "Thanks for your opinion" smile, and go on.

Way to go by the way!

Timetostart22 · 05-15-2011, 11:10 PM

I'm new here and this is my first post. I would like to point out that if you didn't love your body, you wouldn't be treating it so well. I took their statements as being envious, based on how you described them. A lot of times, criticism of others comes from something you don't like about yourself.

Frankly, I admire your dedication. If I had that much discipline, I would have lost a lot more by now. It's nice to find a forum like this to be able to work through what we need to, to make this all work.

Good for you and your discipline. I think it's great!

-Ela

Jeannette311 · 05-16-2011, 01:17 AM

I think your plan sounds great. Don't worry about the haters! I've let "friends" sabotage me many times by planting seeds of doubts in my head. Just keep doing what you're doing. If you start to lose weight too fast, then I would worry. But as long as it's steady and you're comfortable, keep doing what you're doing and say "poop" to the naysayers!

starbrite · 05-16-2011, 01:32 AM

I think you have to be excessive to lose weight. It takes a great deal of focus and not a little attention. If I hadn't been excessive and obsessed I would not have lost 141lbs- I'd still be whining and wondering why I was still fat !! You go girl and avoid the naysayers. It has gobsmacked me how *****y the women have been on my journey....

WendeeLou · 05-16-2011, 10:32 AM

Thanks for the support everyone!

Starbrite, I agree. Its a LIFESTYLE change, so how would it not consume my life.. it is changing pretty much every habit I have had my entire life.. what I eat, how active I am, how DISCAPLINED I am.. as well as how I think and feel about myself.