I'm really not sure if this is the right section for this, if not mods, please change it. I feel super guilty for even talking about this even though this is an anonymous forum, and I'm not talking about anyone on here. But just guilt about talking about it, because it's not a criticism, just an observation.
So anyway, I've been heavy my entire life, I've never known any different, and my weight jumped to well over 300 lbs when I turned 14. I'm a guy btw. At any rate, my weight, however, has never been proportional. I've always had a thinnish face compared to the rest of me, and thin ankles. I only really started to get a double chin when I was in the upper 300s and lower 400s. I'm 6 ft tall.
And, when I lost over 100 lbs, and got down to the mid-250s, I lost all the excess weight on my face and neck, and even right now at 268, as it did in the past, my chest bone protrudes a bit. I like to feel it, gives me more gumption to go on. But my stomach is huge, like over or at 50 in. So, I dunno, genetics is weird. Naturally skinny grandpa gave me a thin face and neck and top, naturally fluffy grandma, gave me a big tummy and thighs.
So fast forward to now, an online friend (whom I don't know because of weight issues) and I decided to exchange photos. He is pretty average, like average weight and maybe a bit on the low side. Hates sweets, likes meats though, doesn't really try to diet, but is generally a small guy. Maybe, maybe in the overweight BMI now, but certainly not "fat". Maybe like 165, 170 now? And, so I show him a picture I took a chest and head shot from when I was just above 300 lbs, like 309, very nervously, and then he shows me a picture of himself. And, tells me, "now don't mind my face, I know it looks fat".
It's hard to put this into words, but to think he was so self conscious about his face after he saw my photo and then to top it off, judged himself as "fat" after a photo of me at 309 pounds (head and neck shot), is just patently absurd.
And, indeed it did, judging by his face alone, you'd guess upper 200s or lower 300s, but yet, his body is small in comparison like 165, 170.
So, I kinda felt guilty having him be so concerned about it, but I said it was fine, which it is, but yeah. So, the entire thing left me, once again, realizing the whole futility of the whole exercise in weight loss I think, that it all boils down to genetics and what you're born with. And, it doesn't mean I'm gonna stop doing what I'm doing, I've come too far, and it's for my health also. But it's just weird because basically we all come in various shapes and sizes, and it made me angry that he felt so concerned about something that should not matter. I mean, he really can't lose any more weight except maybe 10 lbs. And, once again it made me mad at the state of the world that this is even an issue. And, it really surprised me.
So odd post I know, just had to get it out, can anyone else relate?