[dragonwoman64]

Originally Posted by JMSilver

I should say for clarity that I more or less forced him to confess to it. I'm pretty much like a highly trained sniffer dog when it comes to things being off. I can often sense things straight away with him. I didn't literally corner him, but I pretty much figuratively did. He could only really say yes or no, and he doesn't lie.

So, in a way, I got what I asked for: an honest answer.

I kind of figured that might have been the case, only because it totally sounds like sometime I might do, doh!

don't beat yourself up over it being an "honest" answer (another thing I would do). what may seem "honest" now, may change as his mental, emotional, and physical states change. And as you change -- and I don't necessarily mean weight wise at all -- though you may choose to make that part of your change.

consider his answer as reflective of the circumstances. a wise person told me once not to ask q's I really don't want the answers to, which unfortunately is something I was told post having done so(!)

[JMSilver]

Woo! I managed to get him to go to the chiro so we can start working out together. I have a rotated tailbone, which makes 90% of exercise too painful if I'm not keeping up with adjustments and he has a bad back. We have back to back appointments this Wednesday, so we'll be exercising together after that.

I'm beating myself up much less about this whole thing since getting shot with a clue gun about how he is feeling about his weight gain. The focus is finally shifting back on me getting healthy for me.