Did not notice how long ago the post started but there is a product that you can pick up at the drug store:I think its called Cystic or something like that I bought it at walmart its for daily intake to keep from getting kidney {ect infections} it is a direitive of Cranbrries without the calories you take a teaspoon a day. I was taking it for a couple months.
I agree with the others and there assesment of your situation.....I was there myself. YOU do not have an unreal goal and it has to do with her jealousy and also her fears! You I know have to keep the peace its hard HANG in there keep your goals in mind and sounds like you need to talk with BF and ask for HELP!
AND CONGRADULATIONS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!You are doing great don't let her or anyone else keep you from your goals!!
I can't add anything meanful to the insight and advice you've already received - I agree with most all I've read. I just want to say that I'm sorry you've had to deal with this, and I hope to heck I've never done anything remotely like that to my son's girlfriend! Have I? Oh gawd, I hope not.
And Devadiva - is that your dog in your avatar? A Great Pyrenees? Kuvase? I've had both Pyrenees' and Kuvase over the years - super dogs. (Apologies for the hijack!)