My good friend that is the same age as
me was inspired by my weight loss that
she's asking me to help her lose weight!
We both need support and motivation so
I think this would really benefit the both
of us! The great thing is is that she lives
right down the street from me so it'll be
easy to be there for each other.
A little bit about her...
First off, she is a BEAUTIFUL girl- both inside
and out. She's confessed to me that she's almost
300lbs and that she's ready to become healthy.
She's a diabetic and she's been under A LOT of
stress lately and she just needs a really good friend
to help her through it. She's very good at photography
and I know she has big dreams for herself and her
I need your help, though, 3FC. I know my workouts
help for me, but can you give me any pointers? What
could WE as a TEAM start off doing?
We're in this together and I've told her it's
going to be hard work and she seems determined and
prepared. I'm so glad I decided to share my
weight loss journey with my friends because it just
goes to show that one good thing CAN lead to another
good thing and make a difference.
Way to go on inspiring a friend and teaming up with her to help her turn things around. I think one of the best things we can do when we have achieved success (in weight loss or in any part of our lives) is "pay it forward" by sharing our experience, knowledge and support with others.
I think with her medical issues, her first stop should be with her family doctor. She should ask him for a referral to a nutritionist. With her issues, hopefully she could get at least one visit covered by insurance. Being young, nearly 300 lbs, and diabetic, I would just want some input and guidance from a medical professional. I think a nutritionist's input or a diabetes specialist's input would be helpful since a lot of general practice and family practice doctors really don't know that much about nutrition and weight loss.
I would think the next step would be to get a good pair of walking shoes and start hoofing it. You could walk together and then maybe do 15 minutes of hand weights. What is your regular workout? Could she watch you for inspiration or ideas? I'm not sure how diabetes affects her ability to exercise. I know my friend's son has a particularly hard time with swimming -- apparently it is particularly demanding on the body, so it really messes with his blood sugar (he has juvenile diabetes, not obesity-induced).
Maybe this is the start of a career for you -- could you be the next Jillian Michaels?
I have two best girlfriends with whom I do this. Both are significantly heavier than me. One is highly motivated and keeps pace with me completely and even surpasses me, which honestly blows my mind. She's amazing! The other needs a lot of hand holding, which is fine.
Who knows which way your friend may go, but she's going to need very different things at the beginning. With my friend, I just started walking with her to help keep her motivated. Walking with her is not a good work out for me. It's not long enough or fast enough to benefit me much. So I look at it as just more movement in my day, and there's nothing wrong with that!! But it's not my "workout". But I would never tell her that! I tell her things like, "Wow, we walked the same distance in less time today," and stuff like that.
I just try to take her where she is and I try to let her take the lead on weight loss talk. It's hard because I like to talk about it! I'm sure I'm not perfect at it and I probably say stupid things, but I try.
Mostly I'm there as a listener and a motivator and I share what I know WHEN ASKED. She's got to find what works for her on her own terms, which is hard for me. I'm a "fixer" by nature.
Long term goal: To still be calorie counting 11/9/2010
mini goals: ~211-10% lost;12/24/09 ~203 class I obesity 1/28/10; ~199 Onederland/15% 2/19/10; ~188-20%; ~185 half way 5/14/10; 179-bye 180's 6/12/10; ~174 overweight 7/3/2010;169-bye 170's 8/13/10;~164-30% 10/23/2010159-bye 160's~11/1/10; 153-35%~12/23/10; 149-bye 150's~2/11/11; 145 normal~2/14/2011; ~141-40%; 139-bye 140's ~135 GOAL! (129-45%; 117.5-50%)
i agree with the others that seeing a doctor and also starting with walking would be great.
but i just wanted to say that that is so great that you have inspired her and that she talked with you about it. congrats on your hard work to get where you are, and it must be rewarding that someone shared with you that your efforts had a positive influence. it sounds like the two of you will have a lot of fun together. very cool.
Don't Let The Days Go By--Bush I will be healthy, too. 1st Goal 163 2nd Goal 136 3rd Goal 118
I agree with everyone else in saying that walking is the simplest and easiest thing to start out with. You've been doing this for a while so she's not at the same level as you, so if you start her off doing your workouts she may feel a little overwhelmed.
Congrats on helping another girl take control of her life. She has a great source of inspiration. Keep us posted on both of your progress and have her sign up here on 3FC!
Started Journey~~ November 2009 (207)
No longer obese~~ April 5, 2010 (177.2)
No longer overweight~~ July 24, 2010 (147.6)
Original Ultimate Goal Met~~ February 4, 2011 (139.4)
Final Goal/New Birthday~~
@thesame7lbs - I was talking to my fiancÚ
about becoming a nutritionist or a doctor. I
really love helping and and making a difference.
I run 2 miles every other day, so I think for now
walks would be the best.
@Eliana - I know where you're coming from. I'm
a complete "fixer" too.
@jillianfan - Thank you! She's really big on eating
junk food so I know that's something we're gonna
have to work on.
@skygirl - I'm very glad she's going to be my
weight loss buddie. She's a very sweet girl
but unfortunately her self-esteem is REALLY
low. I really hope I can help her out with that.