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When I was younger I used to have the mentality that I had a "skinny brain" trapped in a "fat body" and that I had been punished with being fat forever because no matter how hard I tried I NEVER lost weight.
By "trying" I mean going into anorexic periods all throughout middle school and high school, because that's the only way I thought would help me lose. This was before I knew anything about calorie counting, nutrients, or how my body really worked, or the fact that everybody loses weight differently and that everyone is overweight from different causes. I've also been one with a lot of model-thin friends. The only few friends I had in high school who were fat were binge eaters, which I would not consider myself to be. (I ate normal and sometimes large portions of bad things and PCOS combo, but I don't really recall binge-eating.) Back then I couldn't understand that or had never really read stories about binge-eaters and everything behind it, so I just thought those friends were the "typical fat girl" and because I wasn't a binge-eater I wasn't really a "fat" person. This thinking was even worsened by all of the doctors and nutritionists that my parents took me to while growing up. We would tell the doctor or nutritionist that once I hit puberty I gained an extreme amount of weight around my stomach despite not changing my diet to go from "chubby" to morbidly obese in less than a year, I had terrible acne, hair growth, I felt exhausted all the time. (HELLO!!! Major sign of PCOS here!?!?) Rather than checking my hormones and testing me, they would simply INSIST that I was basically stuffing my face with fast food all the time and that I only needed to change the way I was eating and "do sports". I think these experiences also instilled that whole "I don't eat like the 'typical' fat person does, so I'm not really a fat person mentally, but I'm doomed to be a fat person physically forever." This was some of the most aggravating, frustrating, and depressing times of my life and I'm glad that things are different now. But the moral of the story is, despite thinking this way initially, I've come to realize that no one is really meant to be a "fat person" or a "skinny person". |
I don't think I've ever thought of myself as either naturally fat or naturally slim.
My weight has yo-yoed within a 30-50-pound range throughout most of my postpubertal life. I've always viewed my weight as the direct result of my eating habits. When I overeat (massively), I gain. When I eat at a deficit, I lose. When I eat moderately, I maintain. I don't mean to offend anyone, but I still find it difficult to believe that some people have trouble losing weight despite eating very little, perhaps because my own experience has been so dramatically different. The relationship between my food intake and my weight has always been predictable and linear. Calories in, calories out. F. |
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As usual, Freelance, my experience parallels yours. My body is almost textbook in how it responds to the calories w/calories out equation. |
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Kaplods you said just what I needed to hear, it's what I've been thinking, but couldn't come up with the right words, thanks again!
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To Cindy in mexico who bumped this thread. I have read some of the posts that followed you and there in lies the reason why its always better to start a new thread if you want your question answered. The posts i read had not read your posts. they jumped straight from the first post or page to writing their answers and may not have read yours. Its understandable. Reading through pages and pages of replies can get tedious.
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You don't need to exercise to lose the weight you need to lose. Just eat less. Its what i'm doing. You might find my blog thread in the link below helpful even if you are a meat eater. I list some recipes. Note that i modify what i do as i go along. But essentially i start out figuring out maintenance calories for a sedentary lifestyle and restrict my calories to losing 1/2 pound a week which in my case was 1650. I found i lose steadily and didn't get much hunger. I avoid hunger by putting my meals close together. If you have trigger foods, quit them. Eat healthy low calorie foods most of all so that you can eat more and minimise hunger. That means high fibre foods. I eat whole fat dairy and everything except sweets which i completely avoid. Also you can't eat deep frieds on a regular basis or nibble away on anything. I find a structured meal routine is the best for me and i try to eat my meals around the same time each day. Lunch not too long after breakfast. I get hungry around 5pm when i usually have a glass of wine. If I wasn't drinking wine, i'd probably eat some fruit. Or start dinner earlier. I have recently started including some protein in every meal. I think it has various benefits. I am sorry to hear about the ordeal you've been through with your knees. The first one particularly sounds awful. Yesterday i learned something new about the benefits of exercise. It helps the body suck up more glucose from the bloodstream which is important for avoiding diabetes. But if you have physical limitations i don't think you should worry. Just get your weight down without further injury or pain and get that operation. Best wishes. |
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And study after study shows many people fail on reducing calorie approaches. A lot of people succeed on approaching things from not eating foods that make and keep them hungry. Some do fine on everything in moderation, màny don't. So it might seem simple, just eat less. But the reality is unless taking a look at diet composition many find this very difficult to do. Do calories matter on any approach? Resoundingly YES. I just never succeeded until I asked WHY am I hungry all the time. I choose to target the foods making me hungry, and then it was just an amazing an awesome journey after that. |
Yes, actually I use that phrase frequently. I was an active fit child, average sized teenager... then ballooned a whopping 60 lbs in the span of a few short months as a very young adult. Been that way for 10 years now, however, my mentality has led to issues losing the weight. Inside I still FEEL like my "normal" young fit self. If I am not actively thinking about it or participating in super active situatiobs, I forget what I've become. Very odd to have to make a conscious effort to remember what you're not any longer.
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<<Well with obesity soaring what you shouldn't find surprising is people finding it hard to not overeat.>>
I did NOT say this! I understand the compulsion to overeat all too well and find it a continual challenge not to overeat -- not because I'm always hungry, but because I love food. What I said was: "I still find it difficult to believe that some people have trouble losing weight despite eating very little." Not despite TRYING to eat very little, but despite ACTUALLY eating very little. F. |
I think I do see myself as a thin person trapped in this body. Not because I don't see what I am but because of deep down inside of me I want to do things I can't in this body.
I have always wanted to be fit. I wanna run, climb mountains, be a flexible yoga queen. I like fitness. I even like healthy foods. I feel like that person is who I really am, I have just pushed her down, hidden her away & shut her up with cake. It is not so much about my weight ofcourse but all the issues, confidence, that come with it. But I think part of this weight loss journey is letting my true self be free. Quote:
How fast we lose can play such a role for alot of us motivation wise. I remember my sister & I were trying to lose together. I was being hyper vigilant, counting every calorie, eating healthy, exercising. I was quite a bit smaller then my sister to start with. I was losing .5lb-1lb. My sister barely changed her diet, no fitness, was still eating alot of very bad things and was losing 3-7lbs. It can suck lol We are not all the same for sure! |
I've definitely always felt like I'm in the wrong body. My confidence level was always really really high for many years eventhough I was overweight. I was confident that I was beautiful, that my smile was terrific, that my hair was luscious, that my skin was enviable, and I got lots of attention for my beauty. I always felt so good and yet pictures of myself seemed like foreign to me, that's not me!! Eventually those pictures and constantly comparing myself to my skinny friends broke down my confidence and now my appearance and self esteem match.
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