3 Fat Chicks on a Diet Weight Loss Community  

Go Back   3 Fat Chicks on a Diet Weight Loss Community > Support Forum > Weight Loss Support

Weight Loss Support Give and get support here!

Left in the dust by my Husband.

Reply
 
Thread Tools
Old 05-28-2010, 11:34 AM   #1
Member
 
Join Date: May 2010
Posts: 38

S/C/G: 270/255/150

Height: 5'6"

Default Left in the dust by my Husband.

Anyone else here doing the whole weight loss journey with your husband? He eats way worse than I do, gets less exercise than I do, and its just dropping off of him. I know its normal for men to lose easier than women, but its not fair!! Almost discouraging. Soon hes going to pass me up!! uggh Damn genetics.
ariana419 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 05-28-2010, 11:51 AM   #2
Senior Member
 
Join Date: May 2005
Location: San Diego
Posts: 6,182

S/C/G: 200/Ethan born 1-11-13/130

Default

Can you focus on celebrating your husband's success? You want him to be healthier, right? Sure, gender differences are unfair, he can pee standing up and never has a period. This is just another one of those things.

It is completely outside of your control and HIS control, you can be grouchy about it and potentially sabotage your own and maybe his efforts (if he picks up on how you feel and feels guilty and maybe slows down).

Or you can get over it and be the loving cheerleader he needs (and you would want him to be for you).

Who cares how much faster he loses weight, if you both eventually get to the finish line, a healthier, slimmer, more energetic couple?
__________________
SIX YEARS at maintenance weight!

My very long weight loss story

"I saw an angel in the marble and I chiseled until I set it free."
Michelangelo

Last edited by Glory87 : 05-28-2010 at 11:51 AM.
Glory87 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 05-28-2010, 11:55 AM   #3
Live. Laugh. Love.
 
InControl2Day's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2009
Location: Florida
Posts: 486

S/C/G: 191.5/126/120

Height: 5'1

Default

Trust me, I know where you are coming from. My bf doesnt track calories, exercises when he feels like it, drinks..basically things that make me gain.. and he loses.

I've realized men and women are different and it's just something that happens. I am so happy he's getting healthier. Men also have a higher calorie allowance than we do because of the amount of muscle they have. My bf can lose 2-3 lbs on 1800 calories.

Don't let this effect you. It's a personal journey!
__________________
Grace Dishes

Weightloss Journey Started Oct 5, 2009



InControl2Day is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 05-28-2010, 12:09 PM   #4
Senior Member
 
sacha's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2008
Posts: 2,638

S/C/G: 163/128/125

Height: 5'5

Default

I actually have the opposite problem, I lose weight very fast but my husband doesn't. For some people it is genetics, but it can also be a case of proportions (ie. he may eat a lot more than you, but he might require even more than that to maintain, so he loses). Anyways, the reason I responded was because you said "he's going to pass me up"... Please don't feel bad about this!! I'm sure he is very proud of you, especially persevering when it seems like you are getting the rough end of the deal
__________________

Maintainer 2004-2009/3 Pregnancies/Maintainer 2013 - Present

sacha is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 05-28-2010, 12:22 PM   #5
aka Sarah
 
WarMaiden's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2008
Posts: 1,221

S/C/G: 289/193/159

Height: 5'7"

Default

My husband and I both weighed 200 pounds on the scale this morning. We've both been losing weight for 2 years, and have lost approximately the same amount; but while I do it by being extremely careful and conscious about my diet, exercise, sleep, etc., he does it seemingly by just willing it to happen. Which is not to say he hasn't made big changes himself, based on my example--but the fact is that he loses weight when I work at losing weight. (It's kind of like I do all the work but only get half the weight loss, he gets the other half for free )

But I'm not resentful or envious of him. In fact, I love giving him suggestions on how to speed up his loss or get the most out of his workouts. And I'll be designing a workout program for him to follow this summer--he's a naturally muscular guy and when he does strength training the results are to swoon for!

I'm honestly thrilled to be benefiting doubly...a sexier me, a sexier husband. And yes, I take ALL the credit for his loss, too!
__________________
WarMaiden is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 05-28-2010, 12:24 PM   #6
nearly there
 
Join Date: Nov 2007
Posts: 2,052

S/C/G: 145/111/95

Height: 5"1"

Default

[quote=sacha;3312640]I actually have the opposite problem, I lose weight very fast but my husband doesn't. QUOTE]


I lose weight faster than my husband too. The poor guy has to cut his calories to rock bottom levels and avoid processed carbs altogether in order to lose a couple of pounds a month.
Magrat is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 05-28-2010, 12:26 PM   #7
Starting Fresh
 
sotypical's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2006
Location: Beautiful BC, Canada
Posts: 4,785

S/C/G: 215/201.6/130

Height: 5'2"

Default

My boyfriend lost 6 pounds this past week. I gained 1.
Sure it sucks, sure I wish I lost like he did.

I called him a jerk (while laughing) and gave him a kiss. It's not his fault he loses easier then I do, it sucks - but that's life, right? I really try my hardest not to let it get me down.

Last edited by sotypical : 05-28-2010 at 12:27 PM.
sotypical is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 05-28-2010, 12:27 PM   #8
I'm Just a Little Crazy
 
SCraver's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2008
Location: Willington, CT
Posts: 1,404

S/C/G: 250/215/170

Height: 5'9"

Default

Lol! Those men! They "cut back on beer" and lose 20 lbs. If only! I think it has to do with Testosterone. I guess all we can do is be happy for them and keep working at ourselves.
__________________


"I'd rather waltz than just walk through the forrest"

Little Goals:
- Sprint Triathlon: 9/11/2011
- Half Marathon: 9/18/2011
- Weigh under 210: GOAL!!! As of 7/16/2010
- Next goal: Get BACK to under 210
SCraver is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 05-28-2010, 01:35 PM   #9
All Hail The Queen
 
DhaniCauldwell's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2010
Posts: 1,416

S/C/G: 186.2/166.8/140

Height: 5'8"

Default

It's okay. I have been there. Freakin' guys and their amazing abilities to lose twice as much weight as me...

Dhani
DhaniCauldwell is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 05-28-2010, 03:14 PM   #10
Member
 
Join Date: May 2010
Posts: 38

S/C/G: 270/255/150

Height: 5'6"

Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by WarMaiden View Post

I'm honestly thrilled to be benefiting doubly...a sexier me, a sexier husband. And yes, I take ALL the credit for his loss, too!
Love it nice way to think. Thanks everyone for the better perspective on things. Didnt know what I wanted when I posted, was just venting, but I got exactly what I needed.
ariana419 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 05-28-2010, 03:45 PM   #11
a work in progress
 
juliastl27's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2009
Location: st. louis
Posts: 1,283

S/C/G: see ticker

Height: 5'6 1/2

Default

would you believe that at my high weight i made my husband go off his diet? its truuuuue!! i couldnt stand that he was dropping weight SO fast and with no effort. he wasnt anywhere near obese but i still feel guilty about it. so yes, it bothered me too. lol.
__________________
juliastl27 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 06-19-2010, 01:36 AM   #12
Member
 
Join Date: May 2010
Posts: 38

S/C/G: 270/255/150

Height: 5'6"

Default

so it has happened. my dh passed me up today on the scale! sob
__________________
Mini Weight Loss Goals
1. Make it to 250lbs.
2. 10% weight loss 236 lbs.
3. 20% weight loss 210 lbs.
4. ONEDERLAND 199 lbs
5. Overweight BMI 185 lbs
6. 100 lbs lost 170 lbs.
Goal weight 150!!!

ariana419 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 06-19-2010, 02:01 AM   #13
Senior Member
 
Join Date: May 2005
Location: San Diego
Posts: 6,182

S/C/G: 200/Ethan born 1-11-13/130

Default

Aren't you happy for him? Less sobbing for you, more cheering for him.
__________________
SIX YEARS at maintenance weight!

My very long weight loss story

"I saw an angel in the marble and I chiseled until I set it free."
Michelangelo
Glory87 is offline   Reply With Quote
Reply
Posts by members, moderators and admins are not considered medical advice
and no guarantee is made against accuracy.


Thread Tools

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

vB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off

Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
Dad Didn't Notice My Weight Loss...Doesn't Notice Me...Will it Always Matter So Much? ThicknPretty Weight Loss Support 26 05-15-2010 02:24 AM
The Beck Diet Solution Ė April 2008 Ė Group for Support, Discussion, Diet Coach BillBlueEyes LA Weight Loss 270 05-01-2008 03:54 AM
W.O.W Goin for the Green Challenge *Week 1* JasonsLea Chicks up for a Challenge 70 01-07-2008 12:19 PM
Doin' it the Old Fashioned Way #16 aphil General Diet Plans and Questions 1281 10-28-2004 12:08 PM


All times are GMT -4. The time now is 10:08 PM.






Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.6.7
Copyright ©2000 - 2015, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.
Search Engine Optimization by vBSEO 3.3.2