I think the older we get, the less crazed dating gets. I have been married for 22 years, and my husband frowns on my dating, but I do have single friends my own age who regularly date, and from what I have observed, and what they share with me, most of their dates are very mellow and relaxed. You have a good time, get to know each other and look for the spark. If there is no spark, maybe you see each other again, and see if a spark grows..Most of the time, they just turn into friends after a time, and both are good with that. A new friend is just as good as a new lover, I would think. so either way, you are a winner. And if the spark does come out of it...Well, bring on the spice, and try to behave yourself.
oh..on another note..It has been my experience, that initial attraction involving physical appearance tends to fade relatively quickly if there is nothing else appealing, but if someone touches you in many other ways with humor, etc, it is amazing how much more physically attractive a person can become to you.