3 Fat Chicks on a Diet Weight Loss Community  

Go Back   3 Fat Chicks on a Diet Weight Loss Community > Support Forum > Weight Loss Support

Weight Loss Support Give and get support here!

frustrating puzzle/riddle.

Reply
 
Thread Tools
Old 05-13-2010, 09:20 PM   #1
Wandering in the Woods
 
Hermit Girl's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2007
Location: Northern California
Posts: 379

Default frustrating puzzle/riddle.

I have pigged out so bad today. I realize on one hand that food has become my biggest comfort, over everything, yet, at the very same time, being in this fat body is the biggest discomfort I've ever endured, by far !
How can food be a comfort, if it directly makes me uncomfortable? I ponder this.
__________________
Weightloss Journey Since April 2012
Hermit Girl is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 05-13-2010, 09:38 PM   #2
Losing the baby weight
 
StephanieM's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2009
Location: Prince George, British Columbia
Posts: 1,696

S/C/G: 224/183/140

Height: 5"4

Default

Your trading one for the other; feel good with food, or feel good in body.


Foods my favourite choice still, unfortunately. I ate good all day and came home and had chips. My stomach feels icky and I wanna eat more, haha.
__________________

Lost weight in 2010, had a baby and lost it again, had another baby and now I'm back! My mini goal photos from when I first lost weight here:
http://www.3fatchicks.com/forum/mini...ml#post3535492
StephanieM is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 05-13-2010, 11:02 PM   #3
Maintainer since 7-3-2009
 
Lori Bell's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2008
Location: A Nebraska Farm
Posts: 3,091

S/C/G: 333/160/145

Height: 5'6"

Default

For me, food is an addiction, it doesn't comfort me, it medicates me so I don't feel for awhile. But with most drugs, the medicating power doesn't last....and I crash after it's over. It's a filler. It fills the void, so I don't feel...but like a lake with a weak damn, it doesn't stay full...so I have to keep adding and adding. You hear it all the time, and a lot of people totally disagree that some foods, (sugar and carbs mostly reported) have an addiction potential, but like an alcoholic feels MARVELOUS as they chug down their Whiskey, the payoff is a massive hangover. Food hangovers, alcohol hangovers, narcotic hangovers. Food isn't comfort, it's your drug of choice.
Lori Bell is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 05-13-2010, 11:13 PM   #4
PCOS/IR/Hypothyroid
 
astrophe's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2004
Posts: 3,780

Height: 5'8"

Default

How can food be a comfort, if it directly makes me uncomfortable?

Emotional eating.

Because food can have pleasant memories attached to it, pleasant mouth-feel, it is one of the few things people do for themselves in the area of "self-nurture" since we all need to eat, etc. When eating the item, they feel better because of the associations. Some bump up seratonin or give you a blood sugar boost so you feel more "up" -- temporarily.

But the food comes with calories attached, and how we process the food can add to weight gain. We cannot eat away uncomfortable emotions even though we may try to "stuff down" sadness, pain, anger, loneliness, etc.

If you are working on this, I suggest "Life is Hard, Food is Easy" by Linda Spangle.

GL!
A.
__________________
Started Jan 2014:
astrophe is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 05-13-2010, 11:26 PM   #5
Midsize B%^$#*tch
 
saef's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2009
Location: Atlantis, which is near Manhattan
Posts: 5,500

S/C/G: (H)247/(C)156/(G)142-138

Height: 5'3"

Default

What Lori Bell said.

Food is a drug for me, as well. It offers momentary bliss. While chewing & tasting I'm in a state of not-being, wholly concentrated on the physical sensation I'm experiencing. I'm out of this world, almost.

But the feeling is very brief. So I keep eating, trying to get back some of the thrill of that first good taste. Sometimes, even when it's no longer all that pleasurable & I am just mechanically putting one thing after another into my mouth. Yeah, another hit will finally do it ...

And as with any drug, there's the withdrawal & the remorse, the self-recrimination. (Why? Why do you do this to yourself?)

Which can lead to the cycle of eating more, to get away from those uncomfortable feelings.

Pondering it hasn't helped me, except in being able to better describe it here online to others, or to a therapist. Pondering just led me in circles of inactive contemplation.

Snapping out of the haze & asking myself some pointed questions did help, Like:

- What am I feeling?
- Is my very specific craving actually my mind's attempt at distracting me from what I am really feeling?
- Is food really going to solve that problem that I'm so assiduously avoiding confronting?
- Is food really going to make me feel better for more than a few minutes?
- What actually WOULD solve the problem? Usually, it is an action, and it's not eating.
- How can I make myself feel better without eating?

Pondering those things & acting on them helps me.
__________________
saef is offline   Reply With Quote
Reply
Posts by members, moderators and admins are not considered medical advice
and no guarantee is made against accuracy.


Thread Tools

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

vB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off


All times are GMT -4. The time now is 08:32 PM.






Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.6.7
Copyright ©2000 - 2014, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.
Search Engine Optimization by vBSEO 3.3.2