I had a frustrating day today. It's my 29th birthday btw
I didn't have any plans for today but my dad called me to tell me he, and my step mom were taking me out for lunch. This was a nice idea but I had just had a 300 calorie lunch (healthy choice steamer with extra veggies added) moments before he called. I figured I would go and just have some soup, mainly for the social aspect and to get out of the house. I ordered my tomato cabbage soup and my dad decided to make a scene in front of the waitress telling me to eat and not starve myself. She looked at me funny and asked if that was ALL I was having. Both my parents decided to make me a small plate of an extra egg and piece of back bacon from their meals, while offering me toast and additional foods the whole time. I felt bad and ate the egg and meat when I wasn't even hungry. I have a hard time saying no to my dad because he has ways of always making me feel guilty or he gets miserable with me. I was raised by my father, I didn't grow up with a mother, so I feel loyal to my dad who is growing grumpier with older age.
I am tired of the mixed messages. One minute he is proud of me for losing the weight and quitting smoking. He brags to my grandpa that I am doing well. The next minute he tells me I need to eat right and stop starving myself. According to him, I am going to fail if I don't allow myself junk and "regular" foods like the big plates of pasta that I grew up on. I assure him I am eating properly but my impression is that he thinks I am starving myself or at least depriving myself to lose weight. I eat 1300-1600 calories of good foods every day so this assumption is far from the truth. I know other people here experience similar situations all the time. I can deal with criticism from other people but it is harder coming from my dad. I am not sure if there really is anything I can tell him to ease his mind, he can be strange like that sometimes
End of mild rant