Thanks for all the advice and support! I really don't like to offend people but enough is enough and she is offending me so I will have to take a stand!!
saef - you are right! I wouldn't let her or anybody try to force any other area of my life and I'm not gonna let them do it now!
Luckily my DH is supportive in his own way but being a truck driver means he is gone a lot of the time so I am free to live healthy!! He HATES anything to do with a diet so he's pretty much on his own when he's at home. I will cook but I find it difficult to fix things that I know I can't eat but would love to so mean as it may sound, he usually has to fend for himself! Why should I have temptation staring me in the face and running up my nose!!?!