You are HOT! I have a similar figure, large frame. I'm 5'6 and down from 260 to right around 200.
The other day, one of my (male minister) mentors said, "I'm probably going to get in trouble for this, but you are looking like a brick house."
ha ha ha. everyone else has been tentatively saying "you are looking so thin lately" or "your diet is going so well" or "I can tell you are really sticking to your diet" or whatever... but I'm rocking 14s in a great way!
Cali Doll, first off CONGRATS. You look amazing! Definitely healthy and attractive, NOT a bag of bones. I think people say stuff like that out of jealously.
Anyway, I do feel a bit awkward when people ask for advice on how to lose weight, simply because they vastly underestimate how much dedication it takes. They all think it's some special, easy method that we use, and it's not. It's eating healthy and sweating it out in the gym. And when we tell them that, like some others said, they just make up excuses why that would never work for them. AGH!
My own mom is the one person that makes comments about my weight, and it cuts me the deepest. When I was little I was always "fat". She talked to me like I was going to get diabetes and die when I was 10 years old. I lost a lot of weight when I was 20, then I was instantly "too skinny". And a couple days ago she called to tell me that she found me a t-shirt, that was a men's small, but I might not be able to wear it because I'm "too muscular"! Since when is my body anybody's damn business but my own! /rant.
Ann - Relax, just breathe girl. I hate when people say dumb stuff like that. Do what makes you feel good.
Calidoll - You did that!! I think you look great...what is the secret to the arms. Mine aren't budging and I do the 30DS. It's takes the longest to see any results in my arms because that seems to be the family trait even with the real thin females.
I should put on the shirt and say, "Oh, is it a dress?? It seems so big on me!"
LMAO!
jigglefree, I did 30 Day Shred for 30 days straight and that gave me a good start on arm and ab definition. Then I purchased a small workout bench and free weights for my apartment. I use them pretty regularly. I even brought one 8 lb weight to my office so I can lift while sitting. I am obsessed with toned arms and abs!
My own mom is the one person that makes comments about my weight, and it cuts me the deepest. When I was little I was always "fat". She talked to me like I was going to get diabetes and die when I was 10 years old. I lost a lot of weight when I was 20, then I was instantly "too skinny". And a couple days ago she called to tell me that she found me a t-shirt, that was a men's small, but I might not be able to wear it because I'm "too muscular"! Since when is my body anybody's damn business but my own! /rant.
I'm sorry you have to deal with that! You know, those closest to us are usually the ones that hurt us the most. I understand fully what you're feeling regarding your mom. Try and remember it comes from love...then brush it off and keep doing what you're doing. **HUGS**
Congratulations on almost reaching goal, that's an amazing accomplishment!
LOL I find it so funny when people who are the same size as you/ bigger than you try to categorize you on their level or below them. I recall one girl who was at least 3 sizes larger than me, with a completely different body shape telling me that we were the same. I was so disturbed.. but maybe she just has dysmorphia???
I always get people asking me about how I've been losing and lucky for me I just show them the slimming world book , the website and tell them that the weight won't drop off effortlessly it's all about the mind state.
But seriously well done on coming so far , you should be sooo damn proud of yourself!
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If it's someone I am close to or have established in my mind as "safe" I do help them--as far as they want my help..I offer what I can just as many of the 3fc's have done for me. If it's some random discussion w/people I am unfamiliar with I shut it down pretty quick--I usually go into organics/natural foods or whole foods but am pretty vague. My weight goals and methods are not up for debate and it seems the subject goes to debate pretty quickly 9 times out of 10.
I recall one girl who was at least 3 sizes larger than me, with a completely different body shape telling me that we were the same. I was so disturbed.. but maybe she just has dysmorphia???
