also, when i went to my husbands christmas party last year i was the biggest person in the room. when i left home i thought i looked great, but when i got there i felt so fat and frumpy. my dh didnt notice, but when i go next time i want him to feel proud that i am his wife.
I hear you on this. DH always tells me how proud he is to take me to work events because I am smart and have great conversations w/his co-workers. I *do* love that, but I'd also love to the "Hot", smart wife. I'd love to be the "whole package"
Hmmm, how to say this without getting deleted .... , here goes - Mother I'd Like to ____.
And yes - you want to be one! Wait - you ARE one.
It's just another way of saying you are HOT! And SEXY! And of a certain age...... Like you wouldn't call a teenager a - MILF.
Yes, you are both a couple of MILF's! WORK IT! OWN IT!
My hubby calls me one sometimes--my babysitter too! LOL. Some teen boys yelled it out their window a couple of months ago. LOL--I will take it. It certainly beats what they used to yell out the window!
I hear you on this. DH always tells me how proud he is to take me to work events because I am smart and have great conversations w/his co-workers. I *do* love that, but I'd also love to the "Hot", smart wife. I'd love to be the "whole package"
I have always had great conversations with my husband's colleagues as well. Inside, I guess I am one of the guys at heart. Just beware though. Dynamics of those conversations and how they are viewed by the men and those watching you change greatly as your body transforms. I agree about the WHOLE PACKAGE--how hot is that!
Of course health, but also to feel good, sexy, energetic and enjoy life more. I am sick of holding back on things I want to do because of weight issues......Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrr.
I want to dance as I want to dance. I don't have enough posts to add the url, but it's on youtube ~ Step Butterfly ~ lovely French women demonstrating. I want that fluidity and flexibility. I've had it bookmarked for a couple of years as with many of the reggae dancehall dance vids but.. that one.. Fiyah!
Health, longevity, positive influence on my daughter, all good too, but I want those MOVES!!
Health of course is the real motive, I feel so much better.
Ulterior motive. My boss's wife and her rich b**** friends have starting going to an "elite fitness" class and getting their butts whipped into shape by a State Patrolman/SWAT guy.
They are all gaga over him and this class and act like they have all become gold medal Olympians or something, and if you're not part of HIS fitness and nutrition program, you are destined to be fat, out of shape and of course poor and low class all your life.
I want to get back down to goal and get back in shape to prove you don't need a lot of money, snooty friends, and some guy with a night stick and a whistle to beat your body into submission.
I actually know the trooper and he's a nice guy, works out of the same troop as my son, it's not him that bugs me, it's the attitude of the self sanctimonious, holier than thou, B***** who stop in here and fawn all over each other about it in front of the staff. GAG!
I just thought of this one due to the commercial on TV. I don't know if it's an ulterior motive, but I can't wait until I can fit into Victoria Secret Bra's again! Well everything VS actually. It's been so long since I even thought that maybe one day I can wear cute sexy things again...so Yeah... add this to my list!
My ulterior motive was to turn heads, be called hot again, and get guys to do lots of random small favors for me.
When I was younger (before I ever gained weight), I relied on my looks for EVERYTHING. Sadly, it worked most of the time. Any time I had a job interview, I always wore a slightly shorter than appropriate skirt with a perfectly matched ensemble and hoped a man would be interviewing me. Once I gained weight, I did not have that option, so I was THRILLED to see how successful I might be able to be as a decent looking woman with a brain. Yeah, the "hot girl with a brain" factor was my mission.
My other ulterior motive was to stop putting my life on hold. As soon as I started losing the weight, I finally started living. AND I wanted my style back... I saw no point of clothes shopping while at a size I didn't care to be.
Last edited by NightengaleShane; 08-18-2009 at 12:12 PM.
WOW Shane! Me too! I want to be HOT again and turn heads! I was just telling someone the other day how before I got fat I depended on and used my "looks" a lot to get what I want, and it feels like I am looking at a stranger when I look into the mirror. It's like there's a disconnect, because I don't "feel" like that fat chick starring back at me. So it's hard now when I walk into a room and I am virtually invisible. It hurts my feelings and really does a number on my self esteem. I've done nothing but totally be a recluse for almost 17 yrs of my life and it's time for this to be over. But I am now determined for more than one reason, and mostly to be "Healthy" again, so I know it'll happen, and I can put this Fat nightmare behind me! I am ready to LIVE again! I need to be me!
Thought of another one!
