Hang in there
I know that men tend to have as much of a need to take care of their families, as women do. I have lived through the 'no money right now' times too.
As far as doing something for your birthday or anniversary, here is what we did for my 30th nine years ago, when we had no money, we did a scavenger hunt of 30 things, just silly things my husband and son had hidden around. It was stuff we already owned, but he made little notes and stories to find it all. It made a fun day, we ended up having a picnic in the house, since my birthday is in December. That was also a tight Christmas as well.
It was just a lot of thinking out of the box that made it more fun and memorable to me. It was not the classic, take mom to dinner and open a gift, it was imaginative and that is what stands out to me.
There are so many free ways to celebrate, and you are lucky your stuff falls in May, there might be some stuff you guys could do, like if there are free botanical gardens you could visit, pack a lunch for afterwards.
One thing, we still do, to mix it up, is go to the deli of our grocery and just buy small portions of stuff we really want to try, that is healthy, and do a 'tasting' it isn't expensive and it does turn out to be fun. I think just challenging your senses to something new makes you feel like you have done something extraordinary.
I am a stress eater too and battling that every day. I have been trying to be more in the moment. I now have Chinese medicine doctor. We had this discussion on Saturday when I was in there. She told me that if I can tell her i am an emotional eater, than I am aware of it, that means I should be able to address it and try to find a solution.
Of course, she told me to eat produce when I was stressing, easier said than done. But what I have been doing is instead of instant gratification, I go to a cookbook and flip through thinking I will make something great. By the time I flip through I am generally done with the need to eat and if I am looking at only healthy cookbooks, that inspires me. I have been taking something crunchy, like celery or carrots with me, while I look for a recipe.
I am on a strict detox with her, which really just means, no food with chemicals, it is working great. It has cured me of two things that bothered me for a long time health wise, so I am happy about that.. However, I am the Queen of turn something good for you into a calorie nightmare.
I ate a whole can of black olives the night before my math quiz, I suck at math, plus, I didn't just eat them, I had to dip them in homemade weight watchers ranch.
I was aware of that situation and now, I try to 'walk it off' by pacing the kitchen and then out of the kitchen. LOL
good luck with the whole thing. I hope your husband finds work, I know it is hard on men as well as women when you want to give them everything. I probably wasn't much help with the stress eating thing, because I think the fact you are going out and walking is great and probably the best solution for stress.