My 19 year old stepdaughter just moved back home after being out for a year and a half. She brought with her an extra 40 pounds of baggage, right around her midsection (and not from being pg either).
Prior to her moving back home we discussed my weight loss nearly every night when we talked. She complained a lot about the weight she had gained, but i knew with the situation she was in that there was no way she would be able to change her diet to eat healthier, she was just trying to eat as cheap as possible, so i didnt give her any lectures about what she NEEDED to do. But then of course...she moves back home...
She sees the weight I lost and hears about the weight her dad lost and she wants to lose too...but...she doesnt want to do the work...
I got her a job that came with a free membership to Curves and she is great with working out. She almost tried to back out the second day but thought better about it. She still told me that she had considered canceling that second morning and I gave her a small lecture about not starting off that way.
Shes been great with logging her food into caloriecount.com, but the problem comes with WHAT she eats. She asks about EVERYTHING...I understand how hard it is to figure somethings out but my goodness THINK for yourself. Its always how much can I have of this or that. I tell her to read the label. i do help her when necessary like when we make the yogurt parfaits, cause the strawberries and blueberries dont have labels. But the problem starts when she comes to me and says "I'm hungry, what can I have to eat?" I tell her she can have anything she wants as long as she has the calories for it but that she needs to THINK about what shes eating and try to choose healthy options and then I give her a few examples of things she might want for a snack and she always comes back with something fatty or starchy. Her protein is almost always in the low teens and the rest of her intake is split between fat and carbs. I'm no expert but to eat over 40% of your intake in fat just doesnt sound right. Plus the fatty foods are higher in calories so she isnt getting very much bang for her buck so shes hungry more often... Shes not even listening...I told DH I cant do the work for all 3 of us. I cant MAKE her do this, if shes not ready then wait until she is. I finally told her to stop worrying about what she eats and maybe take a week and just eat like she wants and log it and maybe see where her problem is. She said she didnt really want to do that. If she was going to eat what she wants then she didnt WANT to log it to see how bad it is. Then later she told me maybe she would wait until after new years to worry about it, that it was too hard right now with all the food. I told her I wasnt really going to worry about it for Christmas dinner and New years Eve ( I was barely over on Christmas dinner). Well, i guess in her mind not worrying about it meant not logging cause she couldnt believe i still logged all my food. I just told her i was obsessed. I may not sit down and figure out exactly what and how much i am having before hand but i would still log it to see how bad I was so if i dont lose I at least know why.
I'm just venting and i thank anyone who cares to listen. I have just finally adapted to keeping track of my own food and helping DH keep track of his, now how do I add in a third person? If you want to do it then "just do it" if not then dont sit around pouting cause I said have a piece of fruit instead of cheese and crackers. Dont make me feel like I am MAKING you do this. Dont make me into the food police. Its taking all my patience...Rant finished