Sorry...the subject line should read "To those of you THAT have lost....." And I have a huge pet peeve for people who don't double check the subject of a thread....sorry Nevermind, someone fixed it for me
The other day I heard something that bothered me, even though I don't think it should and I can't stop thinking about it. Obviously when you are overweight, chubby, fat, whatever, most people won't say it to you, or anyone, outloud at least. But after you lost, does it hurt your feeling when they say something like "you used to be so big, you look great now". Even though you are thin now, does it still, even a hurt a little? Me and my boyfriend talk about our weight weight loss pretty freely, are honest with each other and how we both look, it's all good. We both had to lose about 30lbs (took me a year, he lost it in 2 months, blah to him!) and are happy and sexy and wonderful now The other day he was telling me about a girl at work and how she told him she wanted to meet me. He said to her "you did meet her, she was sitting next to my mother at dinner back in August" (he manages a restaurant and she is one of his servers). And she had the B@LLS to say "oh that was her, my god she's beautiful, but a little bigger than I imagined for you" Mind you I'm 26, he's 28 and she's in her mid 20's as well....she was not "too young to know better". Needless to say he was appalled but just said how wonderful I am yada yada all of that good stuff...didn't mention that I've since lost 30lbs, that's absolutely none of her business. She'll find out for herself next time I visit the restaurant (in my bikini? lol), which is incredibly rare...we like to keep his work and myself seperate. If I saw him at work I may see him in a different light. Big boss of the big restaurant yells alot and fires people. I still think he's kinda sweet at home and want to keep it that way!
If someone at work introduced me to his wife and I thought she was unattractive. I SURELY would not say "she's nice but man I thought you could do better than that". You are talking about someone the person loves and cares for very much, not some freaking one night stand!!!! Do people have NO manners???? Anyway, after he told me that I was consumed by it. No one has ever mentioned my weight. I look great now but all I can think of is HOW many other people thought that about me 30lbs ago.....I can't stop thinking about it!
Luckily I have the ego of 3 men so it's hard to break me down.....but it definitely pissed me off. She's no skinny-mini herself!!!