I think you are a very good person for wanting your friend to be healthy and happy, and for wanting only the best for her. But IMO, it must be a decision she makes on he own. She has to want it more than anything else, and no amount of browbeating her is going to make her want this before she is ready. The desire to make such a commitment has to come from within herself. No amount of telling her your concerns and worries, or begging her to join you is going to make her want this for herself. She, and only she, can make that choice, the choice to live a good and healthy life. Now if you tell her anything, tell her that you are worried about her health, and that you will be here to help her when she is ready. Until then, you will not pressure her anymore to lose weight, becuase you know how it feels to be pressured.
We have all been fat, right? Nobody wants to be fat. Nobody likes being fat. Whether it be 50 lbs or 250 lbs overweight, we have all been there. Nobody knows better than we do how it feels to be browbeaten by friends and family to lose weight (even when we want to, but don't know how), no matter how good their intentions were, it always felt more like they were rubbing in the fact that "I am fat", rather than inspire me to "get thin", you know what I mean? But when we had enough of looking in the mirror and seeing Tubby the Whale, we decided it was time to make a change. For some, the change of lifestyle and diet is easier than others. Some people are so addicted to their way of life, no matter how unhealthy it may be, that it will be nearly impossible for them to change. People like this, it will take every ounce of strangth they have.
My advice to you, is to continue to lose weight, and maybe seeing your success will inspire her to succeed as well, maybe even reach out to you for help. But you must be patient and wait until she is ready to make this major commitment. I mean, losing 160 lbs will be no small task, that is going to take a MAJOR commitment. She has to be serious about it, and want it for herself, and not want it for you.
PS... NO JOGGING!!! I'm not even 200 lbs, and I can't even jog yet. OMG, if that doesn't kill her, it will surely discourage her..... Maybe a slow - moderately paced walk would be a better choice for her....
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