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I think it's hard to put a label on things because it makes it all so finite and limited. Most of us make these choices for individual and personal reasons which can vary widely. For me, it's all about the ethics of the industry and the effect on the environment. Vegetarians are open to eating eggs. Most veggies I know will buy eggs at the supermarket. I won't. I search out the only store in town that sells bona fide local free range eggs from happy bug-eating sun loving chickens. I would rather see someone eat an occasional steak from a cow that has been treated with respect instead of abuse, raised in the sunshine, eating grass and romping in the fields, than eat an egg from a chicken torture chamber.
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But in saying "I am vegetarian, except I eat fish" a person is clearing up any confusion -- their diet is vegetarian (all plant-based), except they eat some fish. The confusion would instead lie in not tempering "I am vegetarian" with something, even if they still eat chicken or fish or Brisket. The person who tacks on the "but..." is, imo, honoring the accepted idea about what vegetarian means, the accepted definition. But in general, I *DO* believe that most of the words we use to *label ourselves* are approximations, merely bc people are rarely so black and white and purely and completely anything.
I think this issue lies in how political the label "vegetarian/vegan" is... a lot of people (not necessarily aiming this at you, SoulBliss, this is based on other people I know) treat being vegetarian or vegan like a political party or religion -- no room for those who deviate from the accepted ideology. I've even seen vegans tear down other strict vegans because they're vegan for the "wrong reasons." According to this group, it's only acceptable to be vegan out of concern for animals and to fight the factory system, not simply bc you prefer it for your personal health or you don't like meat and dairy or whatever. It's akin to calling yourself a membr of a religious group even though you disagree with some aspects of it and being shunned by those that consider themselves orthodox or fundamental or whatever -- it can get THAT heated. Quote:
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I really don't care what people call themselves, and I'm not bothered by people that say they are vegetarian when they're not. It's just a word. I do care that people respect my personal limitations on what goes on my plate. I can't count how many times my own mother has said "you can have chicken broth as long as there's no chicken, can't you?" :lol:
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Servers in restaurants almost ALWAYS suggest fish or sea creatures when I ask for "vegetarian" offerings and makes me question EVERYTHING about what they say and what ends up on my plate, because if they think actual flesh is "vegetarian", then what other misinformed views do they have? :( |
I agree that there are many reasons a person might consider themselves to be a (whatever) where other people who consider themselves the same would disagree. I worked with a girl who considered herself Christian, but was sleeping unashamedly with her married boss, and took every opportunity to talk about it, bashing the (physically handicapped) wife. Yikes!
I'm not a veg*n, but I am a person who loves language and often want to convey precise meaning, and will invent words to do so, if I have to (or for some reason, can't access the existing term). I think that is what people are doing here. They don't have a word to describe what they are being asked to or are wishing to describe. Humans love to use verbal "shorthand" so unfortunately I think words and phrases such as "vegetarian, but..." or "flexitarian" are pretty much inevitable. My MIL recently told us that she was "going vegetarian," and by that she meant she was going to eat meat much less frequently. I gave her the book "The Gradual Vegetarian" to introduce her to "real" vegetarianism, but in our area of the midwest, it's very common for people to be like the aunt in "My Big Fat Greek Wedding," ("He doesn't eat MEAT?...... Ah, that ok, I make lamb.") As a selective onmivore who has never been anything else, I have on occasion felt that I have offended someone (in their view) by masquerading as a vegetarian. A very bizarre incident in a health food store comes to mind, in which a woman assumed I was veg*n because I was buying tvp, and I was put in a spot where I felt obligated to correct her. I don't know why, but I left feeling that I had desecrated the store and the tvp bin (in her eyes) merely with my presence, and not sure whether I was "allowed" to shop there (crazy thought, and it passed). When I've passed on my recipe (to other omnivores, I understand why a vegan would be horrified) for combining ground meat with tvp to create a mixture that is lower in calorie and fat and saves money, I sometimes get a reaction of horror, as if I'm mixing matter and antimatter and threatening the very existence of the universe by doing so. Even to those who have eaten soy meat products, the thought of mixing of the two is apparently quite disconcerting (if I had a nickel for every time someone asked, "you can do that?") I want to say "of course... the risk of explosion is minimal if you know what you're doing." As a person who has few moral objections to eating meat, I still find it astonishing how many fellow omnivores feel that a meal MUST contain meat (and usually a huge slab of it). Many are afraid to even try a vegetarian dish (at least unless you call it a side dish, rather than a maincourse). I think the term Flexitarian (or one like it) does help introduce the concept that a delicious meal does not have to have the huge slab o' meat at the center of it. In this modern world, this shouldn't be such a revolutionary concept, but I've found in entertaining friends and family, that it truly is. When I tell them there is no meat (at least not in the way they think of it) I've seen actual panic in people's eyes. It's a cultural thing (it's nearly impossible for my mom to try anything that doesn't closely resemble something she has eaten before). Language is fluid and new words (of varying specificity) are constantly being created (even when the "old" ones would suffice). Our culture shapes our word choices, and our word choices shape out culture. I think the word "flexitarian" is both reflecting a change in attitudes, and also influencing the change in attitude about whether a meal "has to" contain meat (and how much). |
LOL -- me neither. Really, I got sick of the whole vegetarian/vegan badge of honor years ago -- the kind of vicious "fundamentalist" mentality that can at times surround the veg/vegan "movement" is a turn-off.
And yes, my mother has said similar things to me too. She once told me I could have chicken soup if I just eat around the hunks of chicken floating in there. Another time, she said I should partake in the pepperoni pizza -- just tear off the pepperoni. :lol: Quote:
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I would venture to guess that's where the "you can have chicken broth" thing comes into play. If a person who calls herself a vegetarian says "oh but I eat fish" or "oh but I eat chicken" ... then that must mean that chicken broth is ok or fish broth is ok or shrimp are ok .. or whatever. And so when you go to a restaurant or eat at a friend's house, you never know what you're getting ... because veggie no longer means veggie. . |
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But if you identify yourself as a veggie, but you eat meat .. then you're not a veggie. That would be like saying "I'm a Christian, but I don't believe in Jesus." . |
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Personally, I feel that every time a person chooses to buy a green, less harmful, recycled, renewable item or products from a local farmer, grocer etc. it is a good thing indeed. Similarly, every time a person chooses to eat a plant based diet, it's good for them, good for the environment and good for the animals. I'd like for it to be a frequent or exclusive occurrence, but even if it's only once or twice a week, that is awesome and I support and applaud that wholeheartedly! :carrot: :carrot: :carrot: |
I understand what you're saying, but if you say, "I am vegetarian, except I eat fish" you've pretty defined, imo, what you will eat -- anything plant-based (unless you dislike it for other reasons) and fish. I don't see how that could be interpreted in a way that would suggest you would have a hamburger and chicken wings as well. I mean, I think that if you temper "vegetarian" with something specific, the meaning of vegetarian doesn't lose its precise definition. Your diet is still all plant-based, except for the fish you eat.
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When we have dietary limitations, it is up to us to convey them when necessary. As someone said earlier there are many different types of vegetarians anyway. Without clarification, I may serve cheese to someone who isn't lacto. But I don't think I can blame that on someone who is lacto for misleading me. Right? |
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Vegetarian is not a wide range of cultural and religious beliefs. It's a word with a very narrow defintion: a person who does not eat meat. Quote:
(Disclaimer - I realized I've been following the religious analogy here and I just wanted to say that I'm *not* actually a Christian, although I was raised in the church. So I won't be offended by anything anyone wants to throw out there!) :) |
Further disclaimer here - I'm enjoying the discussion and the exchange of opinions. I don't necessarily intend to sway anyone one way or the other ... I just like the discussion. :)
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I like people to use a term correctly too. But don't assume that people who use it incorrectly are trying to put on airs. That would probably be overestimating the value most non-veg*ns put on being veg*an. There's a saying, never attribute to malice what can be explained by simple stupidity. Well, in this case I wouldn't call it stupidity. Most people who are not veg*an quite naturally don't have much knowledge about it or great concern over using the terms just so. They might be cutting back on meat for any number of reasons, but they aren't necessarily going after a whole different mindset and lifestyle. By all means help correct misconceptions. I think that's necessary. But don't assume the worst. It's just life. The general public is never going to be as particular about things that may be of great to concern to a smaller group within the population. More power to you :D
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