This brief intro is just to maybe help explain why supporting someone who is on a diet is becoming so exhausting.
I had very triggering things said to me as a young girl. I started to develop very poor (non existant/distorted) self esteem. I am 18 now and it still affects me very much. I have an awful relationship with food and eating.
Over the past 6 months most noticeably, I am finding it increasingly hard to support my mum with her weight loss.
For the past 3 years or so, she has been trying to lose quite a large amount of weight she has gained. At first I found it really great that she wanted to get more healthy foods in the house, do more exercise etc.
I helped her come up with meal ideas and motivated her to get more exercise by going on walks with her and just trying to educate her a bit more about food contents.
She had lost roughly 25lbs. That winter however her 'diet' seemed to slowly come undone and she went back to eating bad foods and less exercise. I'm not sure why I didn't do more to help her stay on track, but being at college I guess I was just preoccupied.
Since her gaining those 25lbs back, she has been on lots of little diets that never last longer than 2 weeks. It really feels out of my control to get her to lose weight. She has asked for my support lately, but I'm finding it very frustrating to give her it. I have been snappy with her, and slightly blunt.
I can't understand why with so much help from me, she struggles so much, when I do everything, especially regarding my food, by myself.
There have also been times when if I have been snappy about something she's eaten, I've felt so guilty afterwards. thinking like "What if I made her feel like I was made to feel?"
Maybe the main problem is that to her, dieting isn't so important. It is a huge part of my life however. I really do try and help, but I also get no help in return
I love my mum a lot, but our relationship is very unstable atm.
I'm hoping someone can understand how I am feeling. I feel incredibly selfish thinking about this :[
Sorry this turned into such a huge post