Hello everyone. I am so enjoying the appartment even though it like any appartment you do hear the neighbors ever so often. I was pretty tence & uptight up until last week. I decided to file for a divorce. After I told DH I felt a weight lifted off of me. He said he wont fight it & would go to the laywer with me but the lawyer did not want him there so I told him everything that I found out in the meeting. They wanted $1500 upfront. The lawyer he called wanted $1000-$5000 retainer plus for him to pay hourly fees & everything as they went along. We decided to do it on our own as we think we can split everything on our own. I will be going over after work to dicuss the papers that I will file & make sure we agree on everything. The last we talked about it we were leaning towards he keeps house, no alamony & he pays the bills in his name & I pay whats in my name. So in all I would walk away with hardly anything to pay- he has the big stuff. We need to transfer the car into DS name cuz that is in DH name. We cant see paying all that money if we can agree on what to do. But I will find out tonite if this is what we agree to or not or if he wants me to help with other bills, which I am open to since he would get the bulk of everything.

I noticed that I have been eating more this last month but when I hopped on scale I am still holding at 129. I am happy with that. I hope I can hold at this threw the winter.

Hello

Holly how did the bike raffle go - and all those cupcakes you had to make?

Dawn sorry to hear about the divorce but you know what is best for you and your family. Glad to hear the apartment is working out for you and that you are maintaining your weight through all this :)

Well I have still been losing steadily and want to keep doing so- Well we had our 23rd wedding anniversary yesterday so we went out for supper and did some shopping, it was very nice then stopped by a little out of the way bar and had a couple of beers it was a nice little quaint bar that when you walk in everyone turns around and looks to see who it is......

16 Days till we will be in Cancun- oh can't wait to lay on the beach it will be so nice

Holly are you ready for your AZ trip I believe it is coming up very quickly isn't it?

Aaron how is your weightloss going for you now that you are back on track?

Well off to bed I go so I will check back in later

Hey Dawn, I am so glad to hear that at least you can agreeably discuss the divorce with your H (is this when we drop the "D") Is it really better for you not to split the house? but you must know what you are doing :) And congrats that you are holding to that tiny size you are even with the stress.

Reda, congrats to you for losing steadily!!! woohoo!! :carrot: Actually our Harley Raffle is this upcoming Saturday. I have only baked 60 cupcakes so far, each night I come home it is very difficult to rouse myself to do the routine but I will have to.

Yup the Arizona trip is coming right up, in less than 2 weeks!

Turns out I had a sinus infection, funny that a little thing like that can make you feel SO crummy. I feel better each day and am trying to drink alot of water to thin out the junk in my head.

And I finally got the courage to ask that I can leave for 3 hours early this Saturday, for the Harley Raffle. My boss' wife said she would cover for me so then all I had to do was tell/ask boss. He was okay about it. I am still trying to be very productive at all times so he won't be as angry at me about leaving for AZ.

Reda, in your experience as store manager, what would you say to an employee who asks a customer to leave because they are a jerk...i came so very close to doing that this weekend to someone, he was just so rude. He wasn't violent or sexually harassing, just really rude. I probably would not get support from my employers for it, but it was so very tempting to just take his items off the counter, and tell him 'goodbye'. But I didn't :devil:

Holly you must be in AZ about the same time we are in Cancun so we get to soak up some sunshine :)

As for rude customers well I have always advised the employees if it is a one time deal to just deal with it but if it is a customer that comes in regularly and they continue to be rude on a regular basis to ask them to quit that it makes them feel uncomfortable, if they don't quit then I usually will make sure that I show up the store and talk to the customer as well and advise that they are making the employee feel uncomfortable and usually once I talk to them they quit or just quit coming into the store - not sure if it would be that I pissed them off or they got embarrassed?????

Probably not what you want to hear at all but when I oversee 8 stores it is all about customer service- I know you know all about customer service, and boy I do realize that sometimes there are just people out there that shouldn't be allowed out in public and as much as we would like to be just as rude back to them, we are better and bite our tongue

Glad to hear the wife is going to cover for you Saturday let us know how the raffle goes, and all the cupcake baking

Hi Gals I am down to 240.2 today. I Hope you gals have fun on your trips. Dawn I think in the long run what you are doing is the best for you. My sister took all the big toys when she got a divorce and sold them as she needed money and a down payment for a house. Just don't give it all up just to get out. 1/2 of every thing is yours.

Aaron congrats on your losing!!

Reda, what you said makes perfect sense. If it was a certain person who regularly was a jerk, then yeah, then steps need to be taken. But that wasn't the case here, it is just the single random impatient out-of-stater tourist and I was tired and had no petience left. But your way of dealing with it sounds proper and business-like...and yeah probably the customer was ashamed of themselves and that's why they wouldn't come back.

Well yesterday my boss tried to guilt me about me leaving 3 hours early this Saturday for our Harley Raffle.."you're leaving us at 3? Just leaving me and Judy in the store alone. ON a busy weekend. I don't know..." Come on, he has left me alone to deal with the store in busy times. And he can ask the salaried cook to help out for 2 hours. Man up!

I have been sleeping late each morning, thinking it was OK because I was needing the rest after being sick..but I stay up til 11 playing Angry Birds, lol. I have to make sure to do at least 30 minutes of some exercise.

well today is my Friday, woohoo! Get through today then I have my 2 days off. Even though I was irritated at my boss yesterday, I took the time to totally clean the deli. It hadn't been nicely cleaned by me since before Christmas!! and today I want to see how it looks in daylight, if it really sparkles, lol. It is just so much more pleasant to work with food, when my surroundings are bleached and scrubbed.

Oh Holly isn't Angry Birds addicting???? I had 2 days this week that I didn't want to get out of bed and go to the gym and I DIDN"T- I did go later after work but I have been going in the morning for about 45min and then I go after work for about an hour. Anyways tonight I went and the Wellness Center was packed, I know it is only temporary because of New Years Resolutions and probably half will quit coming in a month but it is a hassle right now!!!!! Being a Debbie Downer tonight, not sure why?

Aaron whoo hooo way to go on your weight loss- keep rocking it!!!!

Thanks Gals, this week I am down 3.2 lbs. I am at 240.2.

yeah Aaron, you are rockin the weight loss! good for you!!

Me, not so great with eating. booo.

However I did get a new dvd and I really like it. Anne Someone, Life Force, it's 50 pure minutes of cardio with light hand weights if you want, and add a step if you want. I really needed something new. I've done it each day for 3 days now.

Tomorrow is our Harley Raffle, dinner and dance, and I will be SO glad when it is over. It is just alot of work and it makes for a long day/night, as I have to be at work from 11 to 3, then home to shower/change, then to the event. And this year I'm supposed to be right up there on stage with our Prez, pulling numbers and calling them. It's fun to think of pounding down the drinks BUT we really want to be careful as we are responsible for pulling this event off without any mistakes, and we will be handling thousands of dollars.

DH will be stuck at the place all day roasting potatoes, cooking chicken/pulling the chicken, making the chicken and gravy. But our members come early and try to help. I bought a 30 pound bucket of cole slaw through my work; and bought big cans of cranberry sauce; someone else is bringing the biscuits which we had a local baker lady make; and I will be truckin in the 270 cupcakes I've made in the past days :faint:

AND SOMEONE WILL WIN A HARLEY!! sure hope its us :D One chance out of 150, someone's gotta win it!

and once the Harley Raffle is over, THEN i can think of our Arizona trip!! At this time next week, we will be in Phoenix :carrot:

WTG Aaron

Holly that is great 3 days in a row -you go girl
AZ in one week- I just heard from my MIL that the weather is great there right now- she is in Peoria (suburb of Phoenix)
Well by time you get home we will be gone to Cancun :) not that I am beach ready but hey 20 pounds down is a great start- just have 20 more to go!!!! I am determined this time around no doubt

Good luck on the bike drawing hope you win it tooo :)

Just want to stop by and say HI - I haven't been having alot of time on the computer lately with really working on my exercise routine and of course work

Hope all are doing well!!! Have a great week

hey all, yay Reda for your stepped-up exercise!

just counting the days til we leave..which is early Friday . 6 am flight from Burlington VT to JFK. Wait about an hour...then from JFK to Detroit. Wait about an hour...then Detroit to Phoenix. And with the time change, we're scheduled to arrive at 2:30 pm!!

We get our bikes on Sunday afternoon :bike: Reda, I packed my bejeweled headband :cool:

Holly have a great time in AZ and enjoy the riding - just talked to MIL and she said it has been nice! I don't get to leave till Tuesday then we will be home on the 1st- Can't wait to get on the beach :)

WTG Aaron
Hope all is going well Dawn

I have missed you all!!!!
 

Hey gals and guy (lol)..... this post is going to be short.... but I AM BACK!!

Life is still a little hectic. I had gained 25 pounds back between working and not sleeping more than 4.5- 5 hours a day and NO exercise.... but since January 1 I have lost 6.5 pounds..... I am still at the doctor's office but only 20 hours a week... this is my last week at this physical office, I will get going to the new one for one day a week starting next week and I should be completely done by March.

I have missed so much, I have no clue what is going on-- except the last posts. Tymaboy I see you are heading for the "D". I am sorry, but it sounds like you are level headed about it.
Reda.... CANCUN? I am jealous.
Holly, I see you are at the dreaded winter job. I thought of you the other day when I saw a tourist place in VT... thinking about the store.
Aaron, you seem to be doing well losing.

Long and short of my life now.... I will take PD physical in April b/c they did not have one last Fall. My oldest is in pilot school now.... he is a "warrant officer" and that is a pretty high accomplishment for a 22 year old. He went through that training as the youngest by 10 years. My youngest moved out on his 18th birthday and I rarely see him. I text him nightly to tell him I love him.... I get a reply about every other night. My life was a living "you know where" before he moved out.... and although I am broken hearted it is getting somewhat better. I don't even know who he is... he used to be so kind hearted and good spirited, now I am left with barely seeing him (5 minutes on Christmas-- he would not even come in the house) and left with the nagging fact that my son is now someone who is capable of stealing his mother's coat (he stole my non-riding leather coat and pawned it)..... I pray for him to come back to the Zeke I know.... but I guess only time will tell.
I did not ride much at all last year, in fact I thought of selling..... but I did take a ride a few days ago and froze my rear off.... but it did renew my will to want to ride again.

I hope to be back at least a couple times a week to catch up with you all. I miss you A LOT!!!!

Tammy

hey everyone!! we're back, got back yesterday. but first...

TAMMY!!! :cheer: :celebrate: :welcome3: back!! I know you were available on FB but it's sooo good to see you here :D sorry about the slight gain but you're working on it already and will be successful ... oh so very sorry to hear your pain with your younger son :( is it a bad girlfriend that has influenced him?? :?: That must be so hard to deal with, feeling that he is not the same person. I pray and hope with you that he 'comes around'.

congrats to your older son's progress!!

lol at freezing your butt off..but I'm glad you got out for a ride. I hope you don't sell Ms. Dyna..but you do what you feel you need to do :hug:

Yay at Reda being at Cancun!!!! soaking up the rays on the warm beach, woohoo!! :cool:

Hi Dawn and Aaron :wave:

well the trip to AZ was fantastic. a day or so of business and then we picked up the Harleys. A Heritage Softail Classic for me, a Road King for dh. Really nice .SO comfortable. One day we did a couple hundred miles and it felt like nothing! Gorgeous scenery, mountains 2 or 3 times as big as our Green Mountains...buttes, mesas, cliffs, valleys stretching as far as the horizon, distant peaks..crazy beautiful.

And sun and warmth!! it unfortunaltely was partly to mostly cloudy our first couple days, but then Wed. was gorgeous, 70 and pure sun and blue skies. DH's face got sunburned and is now tan..i am as pale as ever due to my moisturizer and makeup have SPF of like 50, lol.

Hey..does anyone else feel that takeoff in a plane, is like twisting the throttle on a bike? gosh i love it.

anyway, came back to a winter storm, snow, ice everywhere, gray and gloomy. Welcome to Vermont, haha :D but home is good.

I'm kicking myself in the butt to get on a serious eating plan. I had no limits on the trip, and neither did DH. I truly hope to try to inspire him, it hasn't worked all these years but there is always hope. I think his weight is affecting things in the bedroom.

I had another flare of anger at him because when I was using his computer on the trip (he was right there, he offered me the use of it) and on two of his open tabs, were naked women pics...wth...I think that is the term 'addicted to porn' when you are on vacation with your wife, and you are looking at naked women with her right in the room...I let him know i was super pissed but haven't discussed it again. i need to sort out my feelings about it I guess.I KNOW he loves me and feels that I am sexy and beautiful, but he does not understand how hurtful it is to me when he looks and drools over women half my age and so beautiful. And I'm sorry but I am at least trying to stay fit and he is doing nothing.

well that was a negative moment but I am back to good :cool: I am looking at the South Beach threads, that worked for me in the past and that might be what I will try.