Happy Monday to all. I thought I'd give you all an update as to my daughter's plight in a college dorm. You all may recall that she was going to WW meetings with me and I was stressing about her weight for a long time. I've had to let go as she lives away at college. Yet, while she has been home over this semester break, she's kind of had an epiphany of sorts? She's really put on weight since going away to school, it was really heartbreaking for me to stand by and keep my mouth shut, but I did for the most part.
My daughter and I purchased a book for her called "The Dorm Room Diet"
http://www.amazon.com/Dorm-Room-Diet.../dp/1557046859
She has read this book and is feeling so much better and there are some fantastic ideas there for her. She has been very unhappy with the food choices offered at the cafeteria in her school. As a freshman, she is required to buy the "full" meal plan at her school, so she is kind of required to eat there all the time. Yet, the food is poor and choices are often high fat.
We are going back to the college on Friday to move her back in as semester break will be over with. We are "armed" with a few different thoughts to help her this time, we hope.
One thing she learned from this book is that she has to kind of think outside of the box when it comes to eating dorm food. But, it's something we can all learn from, I think, which is why I decided to share this today. She had a "light-bulb" moment when she read an idea that she could order "side orders" to make up her meal. Often the fruits, veggies, cottage cheese, side salads and things like that are there but you have to order a meal to get those things, but you CAN order them all as sides. She could have three or four sides instead of one high fat meal. So, if you go into a place and see that you want certain foods, try to find different ways to get what you need. This is probably something we all have kind of known, but for her it was an eye opener.
We are teaching her to shop in the cafeteria. To go there with her meal plan debit card and a tote bag. She can pick out individual yogurts, fruits, bottled water, and things like that to bring back and put in her refrigerator. She is also going to make a request at the college (they allow anonymous index cards with ideas on a bulletin board which is good, at least) that they make fruit and veggie trays as well as offer low fat yogurts. We hope they will try.
We bought her a small cutting board, a paring knife and zip lock bags so she can go to a grocery store and buy veggies and prepare snack size bags of them. We will shop for individual sized cans/containers of fruits and veggies and things like that. Also I'll buy her the Laughing Cow lite cheese, which I know you all know about. She can have low fat crackers or Melba Toast with those cheeses and get fruit and a side salad from the cafeteria for a very good choice. I'm going to see if they have low fat salad dressings, if not we'll buy her a few of her own.
Also, my WW leader once told me that she was in a pinch for a meal while out shopping for the day. All her choices were "bad" fast food and pizza places in the area. She was starving. So, she went into a grocery store and purchased one of those bags of pre-cooked boneless chicken (Perdue) and a bag of green salad (already washed and prepared). She found some low fat salad dressing and happened to have plastic forks and napkins in her car. She added the chicken and dressing to her bag of greens and sat in her car with a very healthy and filling lunch. Where this is a will, there is a way! My daughter could buy the bag salad and chicken too for her dorm, why not?
So, there are ways we can cope with being confined to small spaces like dorms and not having the ability to cook. I brought that part up as we are all often just busy and not having time to prepare things, many have jobs and need to make better choices. We have to think different. I was thinking about how when I used to work people passed around menus from various places and had food delivered. It was all too tempting and it was so hard to deal with. Imagine being in a dorm with tons of young people and the junk food that shows up there. Yikes!
I sure hope my daughter does better. I don't want to have to buy her more plus size clothing while she is away at college. She needs to get control of this on her own as I am not there to prepare her meals and look after her. I feel this book educated her a great deal. She is happier and looking so much better already from when she arrived home before Christmas. I hope she can carry on some good habits in the next semester. She has to want this for herself.
By the way, she is embarrassed to use the wonderful gym at her school as she says "all the jocks" go there and she is embarrassed. I find that sad as we pay a great deal for tuition and she should feel comfortable taking advantage of the great things her college has to offer. I hope she finds other ways to get activity. She mentioned organizing a few dorm floor "dance parties" and that was fun, so I hope she can figure out other ways to get in activity. I think if she can go with a few other friends perhaps it will not be so daunting?
Hugs,
Linda in NH