Bunna, sending you a big hug, sweetie...
There's nothing wrong with what you're feeling... it's perfectly normal.
You're right to get them to start moving their stuff. They don't need to wait until the last minute to start getting organized, and they'll feel better for it, themselves!
The girls are right... a sit down meeting with everyone would clear the air without having to get angry and stressed.
I love Peggy's solution of charging them!
Congratulations for losing, despite the stressful situation! You're an amazing woman. We're always here for you, hon.