Don't think of it as fallen, think of it as an unplanned side trip
. I've been on the program for 6 months now. The way I stay on it is to eat what I want basically. I know what is good and I know how I feel when I don't eat the good foods. Sometimes, I allow myself a piece of pizza or a serving of ice cream or a special dinner with friends. If I've had pizza for lunch, I'll have a salad and more vegetables and less fat for dinner. I still eat the foods I've enjoyed, I've also learned to enjoy a lot more different types of foods.
I went to a wedding on Sat. They had bowls of chocolate sitting on every table. I chose a york peppermint patty, sat it by my plate and told myself I could have it and I didn't want the all the kisses and hugs left in the bowl. After dinner when everyone else was raiding the cookie bar and having a huge piece of wedding cake, I sat and ate my chocolate and it was so good. I took about 10 minutes to eat my piece, then a had a forkful of wedding cake that I stole from my husband. I've been doing that a lot, eat a spoon full of what ever dessert he's eating.
For me it's still hard not to turn to food when I'm upset or bored. I tend to be an emotional eater and not using food as that cruch is very hard. I try to moderate what I do eat that is not on the approved food list so that I'm eating only 1 serving and not the entire thing.
I've found that I've lost my taste for certain types of foods that I used to eat with wild abandon-donuts, poptarts, mac and cheese don't taste as good as they used to. The last time I had some mac and cheese it tasted greasy and artificial. Yeah, my taste buds are growing up!
I don't have the foods in my house that might lead to a splurge-Jif Peanut butter, cookies, chocolate candy, potato chips, poptarts. I went through all my cabinets during phase 1 and donated a lot of my "bad" stuff to the food bank so I wouldn't be tempted to eat.
I allow myself to eat things that are not on the plan in moderation occasionally, less then once a month. I find that if I give myself permission to eat something, the compulsion to actually eat it isn't as strong.
I'm practicing a little self control. I steal a lot from my hubby when we go out to eat, instead of getting an order of onion rings for myself. I eat one of his. Usually all I need is a taste and I'm happy.
Don't get me wrong, I'm a slow looser. I know it's because I'm allowing myself to do this. I'm happy losing 1-3 pounds a month, because I know I'm content with this way of eating and don't feel deprived. I will stick with it and really make it a lifetlye change so I won't go back to eating the way I did before...yes, I still have small side trips where a handful of jelly beans somehow wind up in my mouth along with that big scoop of really good ice cream on the same day....hmmm well, jump back on the beach and keep on trucking no biggy, not much you can do about something already in your tummy.