Saying Thank you at the Beach DAILY 9/17

LADY WINDSONG · 09-17-2003, 05:40 AM

A very fine good morning to all of the Beach Beauties.

Compliments...how do you handle them?

Do you believe them?
Do you say something nice back or say No, I am not, but ty or something like that?
DO you bust with pride?
Do you roll your eyes?
Do you smile and really feel special?

If I said to you, like I do from time to time, I am PROUD of you...do you believe me?
Does it make you feel good?
Do you then tell someone during the day something nice?
Is is catching?
Does it make you smile?

Take these compliments and
BELIEVE them.
Know that the person telling you this is telling you what they really think.
Look into your mirror and repeat what you were told at least 3 times. It may be hard as I know you don't like looking in the mirror, but this is a part of the SBD, body image and believing in yourself.

Have a GREAT day and know that with each minute you are changing. A change that is now part of the new you.
The old you was good, but the new you is shining bright like the first star of the night.

Marcie

PS

Darling Grand-Daughter,

I am thinking of you and

ing,

Hugs,
Grandma Marcie

frannymae · 09-17-2003, 06:08 AM

Grandma Marcie!

Sending big hugs and kisses your way!

Why is it that we are so eager to believe what someone says when it is NEGATIVE? Yet so reluctant to trust what they say if it is NICE or POSITIVE? It is because we can accept only those opinions that mirror our own? If we don't think we look good no one else should think so either? You can start changing the way you regard yourself by learning to accept a compliment!

You don't have to say "gee, I do look good, don't I?" But you shouldn't say "No I don't, I'm still too fat!" How about "Thank you for noticing!" or "That is kind of you to say." You're not agreeing with them but just acknowledging their comment. I honestly think that can go a long way towards changing your internal dialogue!

Enough psycho-babble for today! Stop in at the Physical Fitness Challenge and take the Pop Quiz!

You are such special people, and I feel blessed to have found you!

Have a day as special as you are!

operadog · 09-17-2003, 06:17 AM

Good Morning Marcie, Frannymae & later arriving Beachsters!

Compliments, eh? Well, I do tend to believe them - as I always mean a compliment when I give one - so I believe that others do as well. I don't mind looking in the mirror but I probably dont do it as often as I did when I was younger!

I read in the papeer yesterday that some study found having a cup of coffee before working out is good for you - so I've just finished a cup before heading to the gym.

I really want to take my Pilates class this morning before going to work. It will take some quick changing when I get home, but I think I can do it!

Everyone is counting or watching carbs and one of my pals at work made a low carb cheesecake yesterday - she had a mini-springform pan - and that cake was sooo good as a late afternoon snack!

s flake I'm thinking of you and hoping Isabel doesn't effect you!

Have a great day on the Beach, Beauties! I'll peek back in at you later!

Nikkiloo · 09-17-2003, 06:45 AM

Just yesterday I told a friend (who is also doing SB, though her loss has been minimal and she's kind of depressed) that she looked nice and she said "yeah, right" ... I told her a thank you and some belief in the compliment would be nice ... (or complimenting me in turn would have been even better!!!)

Gotta dress for work ... have a great day all!!

twodogmom · 09-17-2003, 07:08 AM

Good morning Beach Beauties!

What a timely topic! I am the first person to compliment someone, and mean it sincerely, but have such a hard time accepting compliments. I've been trying to remember to just say "thank you" when someone pays me a compliment, and I've gotten better at that and now don't respond with "thanks but.....". But internally I still have that negative self-talk. I think it is tied to my negative self-image. I am aware of it though, and am consciously making an effort to get past it, so I think eventually I will be successful!

I'm kind of dragging butt this morning. Went to bed early last night because I had a long stressful day at work, but we had strong thunderstorms during the night so I was awake at around 12:00, 1:00, 2:00, and 3:00.

Then at 4:30 my dogs decided that it was time for them to get up! I'm going to do my 1 mile WATP tape this morning before work since I don't have to be in as early as yesterday, so hopefully that wake up my endorphins and get my day off to a better start.

Have a great Wednesday at the beach (wow, is it Wednesday already? Where has this week gone!)

sflake · 09-17-2003, 08:00 AM

Funny this topic always makes me think of my brother..he used tp say "gee I can't wait until tomorrow" then I would ask why? his reply "cuz I get better every day" actually when you think about it its very true. I would never tell him that, you know how older brothers are

Looks like we will be spared from the storm, just a tropical storm for us now. Unfortunately not everyone will be so lucky.

Ruthxxx · 09-17-2003, 08:14 AM

Good morning and Happy Hump Day!

May I compliment everyone on their positive outlook today? I used to have a hard time with getting compliments but now just kind of glow. A compliment sets me up for the day.

H. and I are still hanging in. Yesterday I was very "down" and just could not respond to the"happy" post. But I did look for happy things in the day and found a few pretties.

One great thing was that Art, hunky ex-cop turned farmer, came around and offered to cut a tree that is sort of a widow-maker in our lane! He won't be able to get at it until next week so I'm crossing my fingers that Isobel doesn't blow it down. I'll move the cars out of the lane too.

It's a beautiful morning opening up a gorgeous day! I had coffee on the deck with the Girls and was visited by several Monarch butterflies. They may be getting organized to go South soon. There was also a wooly bear caterpillar on the rail that I petted when I wasn't petting my Girls. So silly but the caterpillar seemed to like it. I could see him curling his many toes in ecstasy!

Harry is still asleep so I am going to sneak in a quick shower, get dressed and then wake him up. We go to Hershey's job early this afternoon but my music lesson has been moved to Friday morning which makes today a lot easier.

Have a good Wednesday and compliment someone today.

Ms24Gal · 09-17-2003, 09:55 AM

Good morning everyone! Sure hope your days are going good so far! Mine is. I got cramps, but other than that things are just fine! Another beautiful day here in MS!

I believe in compliments, but whenever somebody compliments me I blush and roll my eyes as if to say "yeah right". I guess I have to start learning to accept compliments better. Bad habits are hard to break

I can't believe it's another hump day and the month of September is almost gone. Pretty soon we'll look outside and some of use will see snow

*running for da door*

Hope y'all have a great day!

little chick · 09-17-2003, 10:01 AM

Hi I was just peeking in and I feel so much better. What an upbeat cheerful group. Have a wonderful day.

Deets · 09-17-2003, 10:57 AM

Dear Marcie.....

This is such an appropriate topic. I have wanted to say thank you to you for always starting my day off with a beautiful outlook on life. You always make me sit up and think about how blessed I am to just be alive . Thank You for always being there with your words of wisdom to put a thoughtful smile on everyones face!!

You are an angel!

.........and I do mean that!

Everybody have a beautiful day on the Beach...and pass some of Marcie's compliments on to others you meet!

Happy Wednesday!!!

~Sharon

Rowan Bailey · 09-17-2003, 01:10 PM

I love to give compliments, have a hard time accepting them, although I love getting them.

Frannie....how is the eating soft foods going? does your mouth feel any better?

-rb

HarmonyBreeze · 09-17-2003, 01:48 PM

I used to be terrible at accepting compliments. I would even argue with the person, like if they said my hair looked nice, I would keep insisting it looked terrible! Then something dawned on me -- what is so bad about graciously accepting a compliment? I used to think it would make me seem conceited, and truthfully, many people think insecurity is okay but self-confidence is as bad as being conceited. Anyway, now I smile and say "Thank you!" And it makes me happy for the rest of the day. Another thing I find myself doing more is finding things to compliment others about. If I like someone's shirt, I'll say so. If someone's hair looks great, I'll let them know. Giving and graciously recieving compliments adds a little sunshine to everyone's day!

dentrassi · 09-17-2003, 03:37 PM

I know I'm off topic today, but I only have a minute before I go back to my parents' house. My sister and nephew are in town and I'm THRILLED!!! We are going back over tonight for dinner so my DH and kids will get to meet the little sweetie!!!

sflake · 09-17-2003, 03:40 PM

I love that baby smell, ah the good smell that is.

Have a great visit Den!

Lizziepie · 09-17-2003, 03:55 PM

Hi everyone:

Marcie: Thank you for reminding us about being gracious. It took me a long time to work through that easy acceptance of a compliment, but now I can smile and say "thank you". It is sort of like accepting a loving gift. But I must admit that there are days when no matter how nice someones compliment is I just can't graciously accept it. You know--one of those down days.

Had to practice the 3 bite rule today. We had a ladies lunch here for our park ladies. The restaurant we went to had wonderful salads, and thats what I had--but--then one of the ladies knew that there were three of us who had birthdays this week, and the restaurant gives a free hot fudge sunday to birthday people. So one was delivered to our table. So I had 3 bits and gave the rest to my tablemates. That was hard, as I do like hot fudge.

Have a great beach day all. Lizzie