I agree, a kick in the pants doesn't mean people should tell you you're doing it right when it isn't. Otherwise you'd ask for high-fives instead
And since you asked for advice for staying on SBD and not switching diets, I'll offer mine
First I have to agree with the others that question your diet choices as being the South Beach Diet. Yet. I've looked over your posted menus and I've not seen one day when you were actually on the South Beach Diet.
If you review the sample menus in your book, I think you'll see the difference. Obviously there is no cheat day on SBD either. But more than that, your daily menus have not resembled the guidelines of SBD other than your choice of lean proteins. You are eliminating entire food groups (never a good thing) and if your measurements are accurate, you are not eating enough food and definitely not enough of the right foods. Your choices are very unbalanced and you're shooting yourself in the foot, so to speak.
I'd like to make a few suggestions if you don't mind.
Phase 1 is intended to help reduce cravings so you choose better foods for the rest of your life. Even if you do follow SBD to the letter days 1-6, having your cheat day will undo that and you have to start over again. It's a vicious circle and not good for anyone, especially for someone experiencing depression.
Many dietitians recommend bypassing P1 and going straight into P2 because it's more balanced nutritionally. Since P1 is really just restrictive to help get past the cravings, it may not be for everyone. I think that if you go on to P2, you'll be able to widen your food choices to include fruits (might help your sweet tooth) and limited amounts of whole grains such as your gluten free pasta. But you also need to include your green vegetables, and follow the other guidelines for SBD. Until you can do that, you are not on SBD. You seem to like the
idea of being on SBD but you are just on a restrictive diet plan and only part time.
I hope you will consider giving up your cheat day. If you are choosing to follow the SBD, you'll find there is no place for it. Sure, you can
occasionally pre-plan a planned cheat meal such as a birthday dinner. But that's just a normal or smaller portion of something not on your approved list. It's not a binge and it's just a rare meal.
It appears that you are using your cheat day to feed your emotions, and there are other ways to do that. My statement is based on your own comments, so I hope it didn't come out the wrong way. You are really not alone in that. Almost all people that overeat do so out of boredom, stress, or other emotions. We did a site survey a few years ago that included over 10,000 visitors and showed that only 3% over-ate due to true hunger. The rest was head hunger.
Anyway, you will be more likely to succeed if you can take some time to figure out why you need the cheat day and take the steps to turn it around.
My suggestions:
A *Get thee to P2
P1 isn't working for you. Try P2 to the letter and see if it is easier for you to follow and stick to.
B *Grab a copy of the Beck Solution Program that focuses on finding out why you make your food choices and involves cognitive therapy to turn it around. The Beck Solution is proven to be one of the most effective diet tools out there. Use it with P2. Cognitive therapy is also very effective for treating depression so you might learn some things to help with the other aspects of your life. Twofer!
C *If necessary, begin with suggestion B and take a few weeks break from SBD then apply one to the other.
All diets work if you stick with them The trick is finding one that fits your personal lifestyle and habits, because that's the one that you will stick with. If you try suggestions such as mine and those by other members that are trying to help you, and you find that you are still not able to stick with the plan, then please consider trying something new. Sometimes we just need to shake things up a little
Good luck!