Ahh, I'm sitting with my salad and really reading here word by word, because it's such a touchy situation.
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My partner just sent me a text that says that "by every objective measure, the diet is having no beneficial effects" on her.
I'm wondering if there's a little bit of the alter ego justifying because in her head she wants to go off plan. If she has more to lose than you, it may look hopeless to her. Does she have any job or family stressors that tend to make one want to eat for comfort?
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I don't believe it.. she LOOKS thinner.. I was marveling at this just this morning.
Many times, we're the last to see it, especially if we're losing inches but not pounds. 6 weeks in, I had lost pounds but absolutely without a doubt felt fatter than when I started.
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I think part of the problem is when she's eating but I'm not sure.. because she gets touchy when I ask.
If shes touchy, it probably isn't going to help to "try and help".
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What I do know is she wants chinese food and pizza and she is ready to give up.
Chinese food and pizza are doable on SBD. Could you facilitate some OP meals that specifically address what she's hungry for.
Kalyn's Kitchen Easy South Beach Recipes. My DH loves pizza and I have found an easy fix. I buy a Kashi frozen pizza-there's Margharita, Roasted Veggie and Mushroom that are SBD ok, and I add all kinds of additional ingredients-including a bit more RF mozzarella.
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Does anyone have any ideas as to why she's not loosing or why things are not changing for her? (supposedly) or any suggestions on how I can support her?
From what you've said, she IS losing and changing. She just isn't very cooperative right now. At this point I think you need to think about yourself. It sounds like you want to stay OP, so perhaps you can explain that to her and suggest that you be responsible for making dinners SBD friendly, while taking into consideration her ideas for meals. You can let her know that of all the plans avaliable that you have researched an feel this is a healthy way of eating that you'd like to continue. You can explain that you won't bug her, but that you're always there for support. In the end, she'll probably eat healthier than before if you stay OP....and she may see the results in you before she sees them in herself.
BTW-My blood pressure really dropped between 6-8 weeks.
And who knows, maybe she's in a bad mood and her outlook will change later. Anyway, I'd think first thing would be to find some of the food she wants OP then take it a day at a time.