It is hard for us to see the pain she must feel internally that drives her to restrict and binge and purge. But she wouldn't be doing it unless she was in pain, and that is sad
Not only that, but on top of all this pain, she may likely have a steep climb uphill restoring herself back to health, learning healthy and effective coping mechanisms, feeling good about herself, worthy, loving, etc. And she will either have to climb this hill or stay in pain and waste away. And if she does climb... hopefully she will get back all the way up rather than reach halfway and live the rest of her life in limbo. Imagine the pain of a mind that is tortured by and obsessed with self-judgment, insecurity, and revolves around food.. shame.. hiding. Then, all the physical health dangers... cardiac problems, osteoperosis, GI irritation, dental problems, and many more. Most likely problems with relationships... how can you truly be part of something, be that relationships with other people or even work committment when most of your thoughts during your waking hours are about how inadequate and worthless you are? It's hard to truly focus on anything else that way... and it is so sad to see experience that...
Then there is our slow, productive, frustration but victory filled weight loss when we are doing our whole bodies benefits.. our hearts are becoming healthier, our intestines surely appreciate healthy fat high fibre foods, our bodies benefit from all the water we drink, from the positive messages we can give ourselves as we are on this journey, for caring about ourselves so very much that we want to be healthy and be good to ourselves! I feel it is difficult too.. and sometimes frustrating.. but in the end, I think we are trying to be happy too, and I know I won't feel happy while starving myself to lose pounds, knowing that I'm also losing muscle and bone mass, and then afterwards, who knows what we'd have to eat or not eat to maintain it, plus the constant paranoia of having to starve oneself just to not gain it back.
It's hard Lifeguard.. I know.. but I think it is worth it. Most things worth having are gained through effort... In this case, it will be weight loss! Hang in there hun! You can do this and we'll be here cheering for you along the way!