I was reading through Howie's post about the comments being made to him and it brought me to a situation that I had yesterday. It made me giggle - which shows me how far I have come in my sensitivity to people. So, I decided to share my giggle with you.
I took my children to a Christmas Party for their daycare. I have two lovely girls - both my children are average weight (ie. not fat like their mother and yes, I will take the glory for that in helping my children have good food choices and plenty of exercise, but that is another post!!).
Anyway, I was standing and chatting with this lovely, thin blonde mother who I hadn't met before. Is it just me or do others get the "okay, I am in the land of a fat-phobic". I had that sense, so I was doing my usual lovely personality, make the connection, let your personality outshine your body size thing while getting to know this rather arrogant mother. I decided that was her problem not mine and it would not impact how I would interact with her. You know, it is Christmas, be a good person and remember the season stuff that I remember (although, not everyone does as you will soon see). Then, a little girl from the day care who has dark brown eyes and curly hair (just like me) and is quite a round child came over to talk to me. This women asked if that was my daughter. I said No and pointed out who my children were. And then - zinger - she replies "Oh, you're big and she is big, it only makes sense that I would think she is yours".
Wouldn't it be crappy to think it would be alright to make that kind of comment to another human being? While the initial reaction is "OMG", I turned and looked at her and with my dark brown eyes staring directly into hers, I smiled my lovely smile and said "Never make assumptions". She then became uncomfortable and fidgety and I just let her feel it...I am in a better place than I was a few years ago. They only way I can feel intimidated is if I allow myself to be and I won't be letting that happen. So, Merry Christmas. I do hope Santa brings this Mother a personality for Christmas.
Cheers,