Reds2004,
I've been where you are right now. I was a single parent for eight years. Oh, how I wish I had tried to take better care of myself then instead of waiting until I reached my heaviest ever to start taking action. When I started my weight loss (off and on for a year or so) last year, I weighed 245-more than with either of my pregnancies. I didn't work on myself then b/c food was easy and it was my refuge. Now, I've turned to my true refuge; my God, my family, friends and church and I no longer depend on food for my happiness. I still struggle w/food issues but am succeeding better than ever before. I'm doing WW and love it as I feel it doesn't constrict me like other diet plans. And, honey-I've tried them all!
Right now, I weigh 214 and have my first mini-goal, 209, in my sights.
I would just encourage you to be sure to take time for yourself. Find something that is just yours-a college class, a ceramics class-whatever! Just make sure you take time to invest in yourself and to be to yourself. It will take time to get to know yourself again and find out who you are. Also, taking care of yourself is the best way to take care of your children. I learned the hard way that I'm no good for anyone else if I'm not good to me.
Well, sweetie, hang in there. Be kind to yourself. Let me know if there's anything specific I can do to encourage you.