Well it has finally come...
After nearly two years of searching for a new direction in my career one has finally presented itself! I got a job offer for a Monday-Friday (or Thursday) flexible hours career. I will start out making about the same and will go up from there. It is the perfect opportunity for my career and personal life.....but,
The BUT is moving. Moving 8ish hours away to be exact. So, selling the house is one thing but getting my husband on board is another. For reference, we have been married nearly 4 years, together for 7. His family is close (within 30 minutes) and my family is a two day drive away and has been since I first started working in my current career 8 years ago. My job now pays well, but it's shift work with crappy days off and there's always the potential for dangerous situations. My husband has a nice Monday-Friday job, every other Friday off. He likes what he does for the most part, but really likes the flexibility at his job.
So as you can see I am asking A LOT from my DH to make this move with me. He would have to find a new job, and move far away from his family. I don't like living far from either of our families, but when it comes to opportunities here it is scarce for me specifically...and then for him he is an engineer so he has a huge pool of jobs to look into in reality.
We have been discussing the idea of moving for quite some time now and he seemed to be ok with the 'idea'. We've dreamt getting an acreage with big trees and having lakes close by to fish. He's talked about a career change or job change too. He said he's ok with moving away from his family (mom and dad), but then he says he's not 100% feeling ok with that either. We really don't have any friends our age here without kids to hang out with so we are not going to leave any BFFs. But he is most worried that he won't find a job that he likes with the same or better pay with the same or better hours. I highly doubt that being it's a metro area, but at the same time I cannot guarantee he'll find a job he'll like better either.
We can afford to live on one salary, but neither of us are wanting to not work since we don't have kids to take care of yet. The most likely scenario of me taking this job would include taking our camper out to start the new job and living in there until he can find a job in the new location. From there, house hunting. That could be weeks or months apart which SUCKS as we have never been apart for more than a couple days. The only good part of living solo for a bit is I can control my diet even more and I will have oodles of time to workout, in theory LOL. But I still hate the idea of being apart more than anything.
So, options.....stay with my job which I am seriously sick of...especially due to crappy hours and days off. Or take the job, and see what happens. The second option is by far the scariest, riskiest, and harder option. I feel this would be good for us, especially before having kids so this is the TIME to do this (I'm 32!). I feel if we don't do this now that it will never happen, or at least it would be much more complicated. I know I want this job, but it all is riding on my DH and he knows that too. He jokes that he'll miss me when I leave acting like he's not going to come...but gah! I can't not be with him either. So maybe some of you can relate, but I have till Monday to accept the offer. I know he's still processing it as it's literally a huge life changing decision for the both of us...and on short notice (I found out Thursday). I wish he would talk more about it with me but he kinda jokes it off subject I've noticed.
Ironically on Wednesday we had a realtor come by and look at our house (in anticipation of future selling). We didn't want to be "caught with our pants down" if I got an offer so we wanted to know if and what needed to be squared away before listing, well luckily they didn't have any gripes other than some painting/staining and grouting which we were going to do anyways...So yeah irony....and we decided to paint the whole house today.....and that I count as exercise! Lots more projects to go too.
I am in limbo here going stir crazy and I can't sleep...which is probably due to working midnight shift.....alas so much is riding on this decision. I really hope he says yes to this new adventure even though it's full of uncertainties.