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I don't think there is any jealousy but I do think you hit the nail on the head when you said afraid. It's dicey business commenting on someone's personal appearance these days. People are overly sensitive, and in the case of work environments, it can be spun as sexual harassment fairly easily. Originally Posted by FruitLoverForLyfe
They say people start to notice after you lose 10% of your original weight. Thats 25 pounds for me. Unfortunately no one noticed at 25, but one lady gave me a compliment at 32 and i just got another a couple days ago at 35. I have only gotten two people that have SAID they notice, but I believe a lot more people notice but are too afraid/jealous to say anything. Keep going and soon enough EVERYONE will notice
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Me too. It's the scrutiny AFTER they know you're working on yourself that I hate. It is like they judge your every move from then on. Originally Posted by Marina Brasil
A colleague at work asked me if i was on a diet when i had lost about 20lbs (10 kgs). I am the opposite of all of you who have commented here so far because i hate it when people notice that i've lost weight. It's not actually the "oh, you are thinner!" part that i don't like, but all the atention people seem to give to what i'm eating from that moment on. If i eat cake at a work party, a co-worker who is also trying to lose weight will be all over me asking questions or sharing strategies to burn those calories. If by any chance i go trough a bad phase and stop loosing weight for a while it's almost certain that someone will ask about it too and so on... usually people mean well by doing those things but i feel it puts a lot of pressure on the whole process. Having said that, i do love when my partner notices i've lost weight!
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It's like -- Now that I've lost weight, I'm "looking good", but as soon as I gain, do I turn ugly then?
So I really don't care anymore about people noticing. I also decided I'd stop caring what others think. Whatever they do, they cannot make me feel worse or better anymore. I'm now losing weight for my health and to feel better myself. Anyone who compliments me for suddenly looking better (as in: prettier) can bite me. If they compliment me about looking healthier, that's when I'll really love 'em.
I'm the only one who should care about how I look. People who love me, should care about my health and nothing else.
No of course not, but it's much more socially acceptable to say "You look like you've lost weight!" than to say "You look like you got fatter!" But I get what you're saying. It's like they are afraid to compliment you in a larger size. I don't get that, but it seems common.Originally Posted by AngryShroom
Personally, as someone whose weight tends to yo-yo, I like people noticing it as long as I'm losing weight. But, afterwards, when I gain weight again, the lack of compliments makes me feel even worse.It's like -- Now that I've lost weight, I'm "looking good", but as soon as I gain, do I turn ugly then?
So I really don't care anymore about people noticing. I also decided I'd stop caring what others think. Whatever they do, they cannot make me feel worse or better anymore. I'm now losing weight for my health and to feel better myself. Anyone who compliments me for suddenly looking better (as in: prettier) can bite me. If they compliment me about looking healthier, that's when I'll really love 'em.
I'm the only one who should care about how I look. People who love me, should care about my health and nothing else.
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I do recall one guy making the comment that it shows that you like yourself enough to take the steps to improve yourself.
I used to think that too, but in my case it is true that I do tend to dress nicer and probably try harder and smile more when I am happy with my weight so that is likely what drives it.Originally Posted by Wannabehealthy
I find that if people make a comment and tell me I look so nice, I wonder did I really look that bad before? And why is how I look so important to them. Do they like me better when I look good? I think a lot depends on who the person is making the comment. Some people you know are insincere.I do recall one guy making the comment that it shows that you like yourself enough to take the steps to improve yourself.