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Originally Posted by KookySuki
Good luck trying to enforce that!
I don't think anyone is trying to "enforce" anything. We are trying to discuss . . . that is the whole point of this thread.
From reading this discussion, it seems to me that there are two camps: the 100%ers and the less-than-100%ers, defining the less-than-100%ers being those who believe that they can stretch the rules of IP, plan to eat off-program, etc. (I am not including people who occasionally "slip" in that group.) The less-than-100%ers seem to believe that they have a right to post their plans, their philosophies, and their views without any commentary from the 100%ers. Isn't there a place for that already? On the 90% board? If such remarks are made in the wide-open space of the forum, why are the 100%ers not just as free to offer their views and commentary on such posts and in the same place?
The problem with offering personalized variations on IP in the wide-open space of this forum is that it is highly confusing to many people. Even I, who have been on this plan for over a year, experienced doubt of my own understanding of the current plan when returning here and seeing such liberties being taken and being discussed as if these are regular and usual. Speaking for myself first, MANY people do not have an IP coach. MANY people get their information and IP protocols here. That is why so many of us long-timers are concerned that the information stay clear (or "clean").
This plan is difficult. My first couple of weeks on it, I thought I might just die. God forbid (is that "religious language?" well, sorry, because that is how I talk) that I had been doing it incorrectly but in good faith. To go through all of that and then not have it work correctly would have been agony. When you have your first small loss, you need the peace of mind, knowing you are doing the plan correctly and that it WILL work, in order to keep with it. When it becomes unclear what is OP and what is not, you increase the risk of people misunderstanding and not adhering to IP correctly, getting frustrated, giving up, and even possibly quitting. The thought of that could make me cry, because I truly do believe that this was my last chance. Had this not worked for me, I would have resigned myself to a (short) fat life. I believe that is all we are trying to do -- keep the info as it pertains to IP clear and absolutely correct -- for newbies, for people who can't afford a coach, and for people who just don't have the energy to have to double-check each and every single thing posted in this forum all day long.
Anyone on here is free to find their own way and their own ways of doing things, but trouble comes when those personal "ways" get posted and discussed as if they are OP. That's all. For crying out loud, I think each of us, having been heavy enough to find our way to IP, have been very humbled in that aspect of our lives. No one is judging anyone for finding their own way. They are just trying to offer the very best information and guidance in regard to IP as they know it.
Now, I am a 100%er. I learned that about myself this weekend. I have never felt forced to define myself before, but all of this emotion and "tone" has made me think carefully about it. I was never completely comfortable identifying myself as a 100%er because I use alternatives and have never been to an IP clinic. However, I DO follow the plan to the utmost of my ability and fervently believe that that is the way to go for me. I cannot believe that anyone on this forum really has a problem with me saying that and sharing that, right? Mutual respect and posting in the appropriate places is all anyone is asking.