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Originally Posted by Litchidodo
Kaplods, what you wrote is truly an inspiration. Thank you so much for taking the time to write it down. You're right about LIVING NOW.
"I pick fruit the way I once did Neuhaus chocolate."
I don't know what a Neuhaus chocolate is, but I know EXACTLY what you mean. This morning, for the first time in a billion years, I was actually looking forward to eating that beautiful pineapple I bought yesterday.
Thank you again...I'll come back to read this when I lack motivation.
Neuhaus chocolates make Godiva taste like crap (in my opinion).
Ironically, I'm really only a chocolate fan about once a month (PMS/TOM), and I'd never even THOUGHT of paying $3 for a piece of chocolate before I met my foodie husband (he trained and worked in high-end restaurants).
When we were dating, hubby and I were shopping in a trendy little shop called "The Garlic Press," in Bloomington, IL. (High-end, very expensive kitchen gadget and foodie store).
They sold Neuhaus chocolates, a brand hubby was familiar with, and I was not. To impress me, he wanted to buy me a small box (6 pieces). I knew the candy was expensive, but I practically choked when the I learned the chocolates averaged about $3 a piece.
I told him (not even thinking that about how rude it would seem in front of the clerk), "NO chocolate is worth $3 a piece."
He laughed and swore that I'd change my mind if I tried them, so he suggested two pieces (one some kind of truffle that I don't even remember, and another a milk chocolate horn filled with hazelnut ganache).
I fully expected to be underwhelmed, and I was prepared to tease him indefinitely about spending $12 on chocolates (2 for me, and 2 for him).
I had my first ever OMG chocolate moment (before then, except for PMS/TOM, chocolate always tasted like sweet Crisco to me... too greasy, too sweet and just cloying).
But high-end chocolates, wowza.
It did teach me though that a tiny bit of something AWESOME could be much more satisfying than a ton of something good.
Now I wouldn't want a BOX of high-end chocolates, or I would eat them until I was sick (and then regret having a $30 stomach ache).
But some foods have an almost addiction like effect on many peope (and on lab animals too), the salty/sweet/fatty combination David Kessler talks about as a trigger to "conditioned hypereating" (his term for the addiction-like effects of these foods).
Even when I didn't like a sweet/salty/fatty food, I would find myself eating more than I wanted to (such as crappy chips at a party... I'd keep going back even when I didn't particularly like the flavor and had to wash it away with diet Coke). I'd think "why am I eating this, it doesn't even taste very good."
It was the compulsive eating of food I didn't like, that made me think I had a food addiction (I thought I had to be pretty crazy to find it difficult to stop eating even food I didn't like).
I have to give my hubby credit for introducing me to the finer things in life (not only expensive chocolates, but expensive shoes), because I was raised to be a tightwad. My mother and grandmother had always shopped on a very tight budget, so I always bought what was cheapest in fruits and vegetables, never even considering to buy apples that cost more than $1 per pound.
I had to relearn how to shop (not automatically reaching for the cheapest alternative, but learning to shop for the best VALUE, and accepting that it was ok for flavor to be one of the determiners OF value).
Gradually, I realized how warped my thinking about food prices and budgeting. I was willing to pay over $200 for a pair of shoes (even though it almost killed me to do it, but my job had a dress code and the only brand I could wear at the time was New Balance athletic shoes and Birkenstock and the Birkenstock dress shoes started at $225... I bought the cheapest pair that fit), but I wasn't willing to pay an extra 50 cents per pound for the better tasting apples?
When I shopped, I wouldn't buy the more expensive brand, just because it was more expensive (I was too smart for that. I knew that often the only difference between brands was the label) and I wouldn't pay twice the price for anything that wasn't at least twice as good, but I did start asking myself "would I pay this much for an unhealthy snack?"
Even though I didn't usually eat candy bars and chips (except "that time of the month), I would compare the fruit prices to fatty snacks.
My problem foods were a bit harder to cut back on, because most were "wholesome food" that on the surface seemed healthy (or at least "real food"). Things like meatloaf or my grandma's saucy green beans (green beans and onions simmered in a tomato sauce... she would serve them over mashed potatoes as a side dish, but "to be healthy" I poured them over a huge baked potato... I would have been better off using a portion-controlled amount of the mashed potatoes... also using it as a meal meant almost no protein. I didn't yet understand that I needed a meal to include a fair amount of protein and only a low-to-moderate amount of carbs to keep hunger at bay).
I liked whole grain breads and pastas (and hey carbs were the base of the food pyramid, so they had to be good for me, right?), but I ate far too much of them, topped them with more carbs rather than lean proteins - and while I loved fruits and vegetables, I ate a lot more fruits than vegetables (unless you counted lettuce, I ate boatloads of lettuce, but I topped it with too much dressing. Not full-fat creamy dressings, but low-fat (high carb) sugary dressings like fat-free catalina (I probably would have been better off with the full-fat ranch).
Unfortunately, most of my problem foods weren't just "wholesome foods," they were also dirt cheap. And being raised a cheap skate from an early age, it took me a long time to learn how to shop (and to redefine "healthy" foods) with long-term value in mind (including the value to my health) and learn to judge "true value" over "perceive value."
Even though I didn't care for chocolate (usually) I still saw a dollar candy bar as a better value than a dollar piece of fruit. Even when I LIKED the fruit more, as in the case of ugli fruit (amazing, tastes like lemonade) as an example, and it wasn't just my twisted logic thinking this way. Other people (and not just my cheapskate family) encouraged me to think this way.
When I told people (even coworkers in a professional environment... people wearing suits that cost more than my monthly rent payment, people buying $300,000 homes) that I spent over a dollar on what looked like a deformed, mottled-green grapefruit, they told me I was nuts. These same people said "eating healthy is too expensive." Or people willing to pay a personal chef to do all the cooking for their family.
It made me realize that our whole culture undervalues healthy food. Pay $3 for a piece of chocolate, but don't pay more than 50 cents for a piece of fruit!
And other food taboos were getting in my way too. I was so intimidated by my first shopping trip to an asian grocery store, I don't think I would have gone in, if a foodie friend hadn't gone with me. In fact, for my first half-dozen trips I would only go to the store when he was free to go with me, and I let him do all the talking to the owner (who spoke excellent, but heavily accented english).
I think it's silly NOW, but I never would have discovered some of my favorite good-and-good-for-you foods (and amazing prices), if I hadn't gotten over my intimidation (and prejudices). I found out that you can buy a liter of gourmet soysauces for the price of a 6 ounce bottle of grocery store brand, and that in areas with a large asian population, the fruits and veggies are not only often cheaper than in the chain grocery stores, but they taste better (because while it is a stereotype, it's also true that Asian-Americans eating traditionally are much pickier about the quality and flavor of their fruits and vegetables than most other Americans.
I discovered pomello and lychee and rambutan. I want to try mangosteen, but it's really hard even still to justify to my inner-cheapsake spending $25 for 10 fruit the size of plums... but I really want to try them (especially since my asian friends tell me it's amazing. I do like the juice, so I know I'll like the flavor, but it's supposed to have a custardy texture sort of like soft banana, and that texture is one I'm not really fond of. I don't even like my bananas soft). It's not the price of the individual fruit that's stopping me, it's the prospect of wasting $20 if I don't like them (at minimum I'd try two because if one tasted yucky I'd want to make sure it wasn't just one bad fruit).
Once again, I've written a mini-novel, but I just find it so absolutely fascinationg that I've picked up some very illogical food beliefs and prejudices without being aware of them. I never consciously knew that I thought of unhealthy food as a better value than healthy food (in fact, I would have denied it, saying how much I love healthy foods... although many were less healthy than I thought they were), and yet when I started consciously comparing foods in my mind (is this pommelo worth more than a candy bar or a bag of snack crackers or even a whole grain granola bar? - Which would I enjoy and be satisfied with longer, a few bites of a healthy, but high-calorie nut-based trail mix or Splenda-sweetened greek yogurt or some of my homemade jerky?
Sometimes the answer isn't clear-cut (the trail mix, yogurt, jerky choice, as an example may depend on what else I've eaten for the day, or even on what I WANT more), but at least now I'm thinking of these things without automatically, and unconsciously assuming that the most enjoyable choice is going to be the one that is least good for me.