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Originally Posted by Natasha22
It's always hard to lose friends, regardless of the circumstances, but you're probably better off. If one of my friends had divorced an abusive husband, out of respect for her and their children I'd just keep my distance from the husband. Even if they were friends before you two got married, your "friends" shoud've politically decline the party invitation to avoid any drama. I mean, did they assume you wouldn't find out?
Right? Of course they knew I would find out. 2 of my kids were there!
I wonder at what point did they look at each other and think that this was wrong.
They both have stated they don't like the gf, either. So why would they be there?
There are two things. 1. This isn't the first time I've lost a friend to this same scenario. I have to look at the common factor, and that is: ME. That's why I asked if I am wrong. What am I doing wrong? Is it my perception of the truth? I can't ignore my gut feeling. and 2. I really don't feel a loss. I don't grieve losing these friends. Maybe my gut all along was telling me that there women weren't my "Ruths" afterall.
Go back to the common factor being me. Why the heck do I keep finding these sh*t bag friends?
Is the usual adult population filled with stories like these? Or is it just me? Is this some kind of Karma-payback for being a sh*tty friend in middle school?
All I can do is keep on being real, being me, doing what's right and what is best for others.
It's just, you'd think at some point, I good friend would come along.
I do think I found that in my boyfriend, but there's nothing like a real (REAL) good girl friend.
I have one left. And I don't totally trust her, either.
Does anyone truly have trust in a friend?
Edited to add:
I do have one other very best friend. My roommate from college who lives 600 miles away. She was friends with my ex while we were dating. If she saw him right now, I know from the bottom of my heart, she would try to kill him. LOL
My boyfriend, my dad, and my bestie from college. I always remind them not to bring fire arms if they visit. I don't want the father of my kids dead. I truly think if I gave them the go-ahead, there'd be violence. I'm not saying they'd kill him, but they'd seriously mame him. It's all in jest.