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Originally Posted by Stefany1769
So I know this isn't really weight loss related, but for me today it is. I tend to not eat when I am upset.
I am in love with and have been with my DB for almost eight years now, and he is notoriously bad at gift giving and bad moods on holidays.
My Mothers Day started out with me cleaning the whole house (I asked my kids to tackle their bedrooms). Not once did he say let me help you, or why don't you let me do that and you can have a break.
His father told him that his mother wanted flowers for the flower garden and to do that for Mothers Day. He must have thought this was a great gift idea because that is what he got me as well, despite the fact that when we were shopping for hers yesterday I told I didn't want that. It really hurt my feelings that he didn't put any forethought into this and didn't even try to come up with an idea on his own.
Don't get me wrong, the amount of money spent makes no difference to me, it is the thought that counts! I would have been happy with a handmade card, which I didn't even get one of those either.
My question is am I being overly sensitive about this? Sometimes it is hard to tell with all the extra estrogen. I am to the point where I just want to tell him not to bother at all, because at least that way I won't be upset on days that are supposed to be good.
I am writing this here because you have all been so supportive and unjudgemental. Thank you all for that!
Not sure what DB stands for, just realized it's likely boyfriend.
I used to get very upset with my husband over this issue when I was younger. He grew up in another country and just doesn't get the whole commercialization of holidays.
He also never shops. He has always just passed me all the money he has ever made and lets me look after anything financial. He even lost weight after I went on IP because I don't go to the liquor store to buy wine and he didn't bother to go himself.
Over the years I have realized the present thing doesn't amount to anything. He has been right there and supportive in everything else for 40 years so that is the important thing.
My son is also really bad about deciding on gifts. Today he got his sister to pick a gift for me from both of them. He just usually has no idea what to get. Even with wedding gifts with a registry involved he always gets me to look at the registry and tell him what to get.
As for Mother's day I think family's have different traditions. My take on it is that is it is Mother's day, not spouses/partners day. So he should get a gift for his mother. But you are not his mother. So he was likely grasping at straws and just went with what his father suggested for his mother.
Pat
Anyway just how my thoughts have evolved over the years on this issue.
Big goal for me.
There are also a couple of resale shops in my area where I got some really inexpensive tops and pants to tide me over until I splurged and bought some Coldwater Creek stuff. Boy was that a treat...
