I feel bad because I had always imagined what it would be like when my cousins had kids. But my cousin is pregnant and I do not approve. She is not married has only been with the guy a year and a half does not have her own place is only 21 and dropped out of college(at first she said she planned on going back to college but now that she is pregnant I doubt she will find the time to go back) I have posted about this subject before about how it bothers me so much when teens get pregnant and are unwed then this happens to my cousin. I don't understand why girls can't stand up to to their boyfriends. I mean do you think it is ever the girl who is like "oh yeah I want you to c**** in me" you know???? its the guy who wants to do it. But it is the girls fault for letting them. Anyways she said she was off the pill because she was switching pills and she didn't know that she had to wait until taking the new one a full cycle. Whatever its just gross. I am not a prude I am quite promiscuous actually but that crosses the line for me. ANYWAYS I wish that she was in a point in her life where I could be happy for her and say "congratulations" I have not congratulated her I haven't even talked about it with her, she showed my mom the sonogram while I was in the room and I didn't go over and look at it. I saw it on facebook already. I feel bad because I just graduated from college and she told me "congratulations" should I say congrats to her? What about when she has the kid and brings her(its a girl) around me.
Even if she and her boyfriend did WANT a child it is wrong and selfish to WANT a child when you cannot properly provide for your child! so even if they did WANT a child we shouldn't all just do things we WANT now should we?
She also does not have health insurance and she cannot qualify for free insurance at the moment so if you WANT a child shouldn't you be sure that you have proper care for you and the child? it makes me very upset.
sorry if this turned into a rant...
What should I say to my cousin should I just continue to ignore that this is happening or should I say congrats to her?