I do an emotional housecleaning to discover what's bugging me. I learned this method through
EBT, Emotional Brain Training. I swear by it and attribute it to helping me remain in an obnoxiously good mood most of the time!
So, in an emotional housecleaning, I try to figure out what's going on with me, emotionally speaking. And when those cravings to eat when I'm not hungry come up, it's a great time to do it.
I try to figure out what this situation is all about, but just the facts. No need to relive the whole issue I'm struggling with.
Am I angry, sad, afraid, guilty? I work through each one, and I say them outloud, and I really make sure to feel the feelings.
Then, as I recall what I was just feeling, do I see where I have an unrealistic expectation.
And then, what is a more realistic expectation...and usually, for me, the phrase, "I am doing the best that I can and that's just good enough!" comes up a lot.
I think about what I need to resolve the angst of the moment, and do I need to ask someone for help or can I take care of this myself.
By then, I start feeling a wave of peace come over me, and I have zapped that craving!
I tend to write these cycles down, because that's how my brain works best, but it's also nice to work through one of these with a trusted friend. In the end, you can ask them if anything came up for them emotionally, but please let them know at the beginning you're not really looking for advice. You just want to be heard.
I know it's kinda complex, but it really works for me.