Hope everyone is having a wonderful day. I am sitting here feeling icky over my mother-in-law visit next week. Some back ground info first...I believe that she has never really liked me from day one. I was divorced with a 5 year old daughter when I met my husband. He was in college. Pretty much not her ideal choice. After my husband graduated, we got married and had another child a year later. They were not happy with the "timing" of my pregnancy either. I have several issues with them as a whole. FIL makes sexual comments about women constantly--even in front of MIL. He does it in front of the kids. Hubby asked him not to and he said he wasn't going to change. Last year on a visit he actually took his phone out and took a picture of a woman in a bikini jogging through the neighborhood we were driving in. Both my 17 and 9 year old were there. The 9 year old constantly brings it up. He leaves his playboys out when my older visits...ughhh. There is just too much to write on here. MIL drinks a lot--I really think she drinks away her pain. Even though she says it doesn't bother her it does. My husband always feels caught between me and them--and unfortunately to save face I am thrown under the bus. FIL is very much a macho manly acting guy. MIL does things to hurt me over the years a few examples include: putting up a a newspaper clipping on her fridge about daughter in laws and problems when I was visiting. Every year on my bday she sends hotel soap and cheap hand cream that breaks our hands out...same thing for past 4 years. I put that stuff on once and my husband said what that awful smell? I said that hand cream your mom gave me.....we threw it away. She sends everyone else money. Personally I wish she would just not send anything no money or gifts. They are older and could use their money. We would much rather just have a nice e-mail. These are the least intrusive things I can write on here and just the tip of the ice berg. My weight has been another topic of her gossip. I gained several pounds with my 9 year old and finally lost it over the course of a year. Now she no longer has that card to throw at me but instead tells hubby....she is sick or she looks too thin. I have numerous people tell me how great and healthy I look. I did this over a year the proper way. I have totally changed my eating habits. I have asthma which propelled the weight loss but I also made lifestyle changes.
Sorry about the rant but what can you do??? 14 years of this and I feel like exploding. They complain about my veggie eating habits, how I raise and homeschool my kids...nothing is right with me. I always end up feeling stupid. They even find it funny when I decline her attempts to get me to drink. She and her friend were giggling about getting so drunk that they spent their time puking the next day. She is 63 . She told us this when we were at dinner with her and her friends--again in front of the kids. I just don't do this life, never have. Everything is about money and bling to them. Friends buy bigger house, they buy bigger house. FIL says yeah I live in a "rich" neighborhood. My husband and I live simply. I want a simple life. She gossips negatively about everyone from friends to family members. My daughters heard her calling me names on the phone to one of her friends. I just don't get into that. MIL wanted to be a nurse but was too caught up in a party lifestyle in her younger years--I am a RN...she constantly disagrees with me on medical stuff or suggestions and reminds me she was in nursing school one semester some 40 odd years ago. I guess me working in a peds ICU as an RN with the latest info is below her semester. Oh. my the rant goes on. I feel dark and dank...a big black cloud blowing over me. I know I need to let it roll off my back....Please if anyone knows how I can gracefully get through another visit...I am all ears!
Sisy