Exactly! Sitting at home and conspicuously "not looking" sounds an awful lot like waiting for prince charming to come by on his white steed, which (as we all knows) rarely happens anymore these days!

Back to the OP: Some people may disagree, but I don't believe in the "one soulmate" theory. I think there are lots of possible matches for us in this big world; meeting up with him is sometimes the sticky part! So just be yourself, do the activities that you like, and keep an eye out for him. I have to believe that he is out there for you, just like he is for me. (Hopefully a different guy so we don't have to fight over him, heh).

And don't forget the old adage, "Be careful what you are looking for, you might find it ".

Yep, very true!

That's true. I need to not search desperately but then again, I can't just give up on the idea altogether. As soon as I turn 21, I expect to be going out more and meeting more people. As of right now, my life is sort of at a stand still. I work a lot but will be starting college in the fall if all goes well. Hopefully I will meet new people there and just expand my circle of friends. But thank you for all your answers.

wow, college is one of the best places to meet new people. Take your time choosing the right partner, that's all I would add.

Maybe she wasn't offended...it's just that when you're on the single side of the fence (and have been for a while) - a lot of times you get tired of hearing the same "stop looking" cliche.

To the OP - I don't have any words of advice, because I'm in the "single and looking" boat - but I think that relationships are a lot like jobs. You won't find a good one if you take any old thing that comes. But remember, I'm in the single boat too - so I might not be the best one to take advice from.

And you're only 21 - so you've got PLENTY of time.