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Originally Posted by vikkivma
My weight has been a huge obstacle in my social life - especially with men. Even when I was thin and felt great about myself, I was still very shy when it came to flirting. Naturally when I don't feel confident about my appearance, I completely shut down.
Now I'm in a situation where I'm pretty sure a guy likes me (and he definitely isn't bothered by the weight - he makes comments about how gross skinny girls are, etc.) but I'm not sure how to approach it.
I know I should just "get over" my self-image, but I'm worried that if I put myself in a place where he can flat-out reject me, and I have to put myself out there, that I'll end up kind of crashing.
On the other hand, I want to actually have a boyfriend and my first kiss before I'm thirty. Yeah - my weight's been a big obstacle.
Any advice? Should I just go for it, even though I'm not close to my goal weight yet, or should I wait until I'm more comfortable with myself?
Vikkima, you are writting my story! Like you, I am very shy with men. Men haven't really paid that much attn to me. Bc of this, if anyone does, I don't think it's genuine, or if I think it is, I don't know why they would be interested in me, even though I know I'm a great person and deserve it. I guess I feel if I keep myself away from men, I can't get rejected, which is what happened to me as a teen. It left some deep wounds. And now that I am approching 30, I can't help but think if guys find out how inexperienced I am with dating that it will be a turn off.
I want a bf more than anything though. I want to find someone to grow old with. I'm on a couple dating websites even, and if someone shows interest, I clam up and leave it be. WHY DO I DO THAT!!! ugh. I kick myself over this.
I think you should go for it. Where did you meet this guy?