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Originally Posted by graciegoose13
The other day I had a conversation with my little cousin that made me kinda sad. Lizzy is ten years old and on the bigger side, in my opinion, due to a combination of baby fat, genetics, and the tendency to emotionally eat.
Anyway, the other day I was talking to her and she told me that she was upset because no boy would ever like her because she was too fat. I guess a boy she liked at school had just started "dating" her tall and skinny best friend.
I'm not really worried about the whole middle school "relationships" but the fact that already she is putting value on looks and feeling bad about herself is a bit concerning. I see my cousins pretty often and was wondering what I can do, as someone she looks up to, in order to help her get through those awkward years we all go through and encourage her to be a strong and confident young woman?
Any advice is greatly appreciated!
Ok, not to be spastic here but being in the same situation as your cousin once was, I think it is slightly serious. You may think "oh elementary school love" does not really count but when I was 11, the guy I liked (and yes little girls are more mature with feelings that little boys) hooked up with my so-called best friend (who knew I liked him). And I was teased for my weight as well, so I did believe it was all because of this.
It really hurt my feelings a lot. Someone I trusted ended up with the guy I told her I liked. And kissed him (and I mean kissed him on the mouth) in my birthday party. I felt horrible for months.
So I do feel that one should take children seriously. Kids or not their feelings get hurt. And getting rejected by your first love hurts a lot. It did make me stronger in the long run, but when someone used to compliment me afterwards I did feel they were toying with me rather than being serious.