But my self esteem is seriously suffering right now. Help! Please. Lol.
I'm almost 5'9, but not quite. Last time I was measured, which wasn't long ago, I was 5'8 and 3/4. So I guess anywhere between the highest healthiest weight range at 5'8 and the highest healthiest weight range at 5'9 would be my highest healthiest weight. The weight for 5'8 is 122-164, and the weight for 5'9 is 125-169. So I figure... about 167/168 or so is my highest healthy weight. The good news is, that's only 32 pounds to lose!!!! Then of course, I will lose some more (hoping to get down to 150) because I think the highest healthiest weight at that height is meant for people with a bigger frame... not sure. The calculator I used online didn't ask for frame size and I'm not sure about my frame size.
I USED to think I had a medium frame, but recently I was talking to my aunt about how it annoys me how my smaller and skinny sister talks crap to me about me being 'overweight', because her smaller body size is really all she has. I fortunately look just like my mom and it infuriates my sister to no end, hence why she throws my weight in my face to be spiteful. But, ya know, most men don't seem to notice or care. I think my height stretches out my weight and makes me look extra-curvy as opposed to seriously heavy (I have never been called fat or overweight by anyone except for my sister). All my boyfriend's friends tell him that I'm pretty and they see nothing wrong with me. Just yesterday I met a friend of his who later told him I was really pretty and he should hold on to me. That sort of stuff makes me feel better, but I still want to lose the weight because although no one knows my true weight, I do, and it makes me feel like crap.
Anyway, my well-meaning aunt was like "you are you and nobody else. You will never be small like your sister, and she will never look like you in the face. You are just a bigboned girl, not fat, but you're gorgeous."
Which really infuriated me. I don't think that I am actually bigboned... I think my extra weight gives me the appearance of being big-boned rather than just plain old overweight, thanks to my height. It stretches it out some. I said to her, 'well I used to be skinny'... (referring to a few years ago, because looking back in time, I looked great at 18!) and she said, "no, you were never skinny. Never ever skinny. You were very proportionate, not overweight, just right. So ya gained weight, so what. Just take the stroller and walk everyday." And I was just like, 'gee thanks.' So my aunt says I'm bigboned... but I really don't think that I am. I think I am medium... but I may be deluding myself because although I like my height, I don't want to be one of those 'big boned tall girls'. (No offense, big boned tall girls! You're beautiful! It's just, well.. I didn't think that I was big boned.
I know throughout this post I've sounded egotistical but I want to look healthy not just for vanity purposes, but to be healthy and live a long life. I have a 4 month old son... and want to be a healthy, fit mom. I just feel pretty bad about myself right now and although on Sunday, I'm gonna start the south beach diet for a bit, (or at least my modified version), I still think nothing's gonna change. Though I went from 240 something after giving birth to 200 as of yesterday! Yay.
How do I figure out what my frame size is? And any other support and help for my mental state is seriously needed.