I don't think they're jealous, I think they're offended because my parenting techniques are so different than theirs. You know, that's not how THEY raised their kids, so I must be doing it wrong. They also seem offended when I try to avoid what they're eating. Family get togethers (that occur VERY often on my side and the in-laws) are dreadful! They always question why I'm not eating, or if there is something wrong with the meal. So, I usually play dumb and jump up to make a plate of delicious-cheesy-whatever...Squashing that days calorie count.
My oldest daughter is from a previous relationship, and when I tried to nurse her, her father called me a pervert and said that I was disgusting. I was DEFINITELY alone on that one, so sadly I gave up and formula fed
My husband will make silly comments like "lucky baby" and "I would nurse her if I could!"...But I don't think he's ever been truly bothered by it. I always try to include him, like nurse in bed snuggled up with him, let him bathe her, spoon feed solids, give pumped bottles etc. Now the baby pretty much ditches me once she's had her fill to go find Daddy and snuggle.
Do you ever wear your baby? You can do more things together while still holding him/her, like garden, go for a walk, whatever your hobbies are- etc. that way your hubby doesn't feel so left out.
I'm still stumped as to what I should say to everyone, if anything? I'm usually a closet-dieter, and do closet-workouts (I hate working out in front of anyone) but inevitably, once they notice any weight loss, the comments/questions/unwanted advice pour in. Maybe I should play dumb?..."Oh, it must be all the crack and street drugs!" Throw 'em for a loop!