Thanks girls!! Unforutnatley my access to lactation consultants/dieticians is quite restricted here due to a language barrier but I've tried everything the 3 LC's have told me, but last night was a SUCESS, it turns out if I feed him sitting straight up (with him sitting straight up on my lap) he can handle the flow a bit better... it's def. not reflux but just the traditional positions do not work for us (and side-lie will cause a massive gas attack).
Good.... I love food
I was just getting desperate, after having a reflux/colic 1st baby I really didn't want to deal with similar issues AGAIN!