I had horrible diastasis with my 1st large baby (and I'm 7 months again so it's getting worse). I recently got Julie Tupler's Lose Your Mummy Tummy book which is not a diet book as the name suggests, but a diastasis recti rehab book. It was recommended to me by a friend who had it so severe that she needed surgical correction after her first few kids but used Tupler's technique successfully to avoid severe diastasis with her 4th. It explains a lot about the numerous mistakes women make when they get it (ie crunches) and how to correct it.
Sorry, no advice for leaking, I never had it!
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