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Post Pregnancy TOM
02-22-2011, 04:18 PM
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By God's Grace
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Location: New Mexico
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Guam,
Why are you having body image issues? 
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Weight loss on hold while I'm pregnant with baby #3, due June 2012.
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02-23-2011, 09:33 AM
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Senior Member
Join Date: Oct 2009
Location: Texas
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Originally Posted by Gale02
Guam,
Why are you having body image issues? |
Thanks for reaching out Gale! My issues are the whole loose skin situation. I feel so gross just shaking and flopping all over the place during "that" time. I have pretty much lost interest in it because I want to avoid the embarrassment. The last time, we had to stop because I felt so disgusting. I'm trying to work through it, but things are so much easier said than done.
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02-23-2011, 12:32 PM
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Senior Member
Join Date: Aug 2001
Location: Lexington, South Carolina
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S/C/G: 242.5/193.4/170
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 I'm so sorry you're going through this! Don't discount the hormones role in your thinking right now. Your baby is about 12 weeks old? Things are just settling down, especially if you're nursing, your feelings are going to be all over the place. Tiredness, stress, all the things that come with being a new mom could be affecting your libido, and your self-perception.
Do you think surgery would help you overcome some of your body issues? Could you afford it, or save up for it, as something to work towards? Good luck!
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267: Highest known weight
242.5: Weight on dd's 1st birthday
213: Weight on day I delivered dd (Whooshed past on 7/6/10) 
200: Weight on day I went home from hospital after delivering dd (MET!! 1/24/11) 
180: Lowest weight ever as an adult
170: Initial goal weight (subject to change) 
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02-23-2011, 01:02 PM
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On a Mission
Join Date: Dec 2007
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Yes TOM post pardum was pretty horrible for the first 6 months with pain and blood loss. I had to go to the drug store and find special extra heavy protection b/c Overnight pads wouldn't even begin to work, and they'd always worked before. I even retained 8lbs of water one month. It was crazy and thankfully things have gone pretty much back to normal.
The general consensus I find is: it gets easier about 6 months out. You can always ask your OB/GYN about it tho and see if they have any options for you. They should be able to help you figure out something.
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A high protein, moderate carb balance gives me control over cravings.
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02-23-2011, 02:43 PM
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By God's Grace
Join Date: May 2007
Location: New Mexico
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Originally Posted by guamvixen
Thanks for reaching out Gale! My issues are the whole loose skin situation. I feel so gross just shaking and flopping all over the place during "that" time. I have pretty much lost interest in it because I want to avoid the embarrassment. The last time, we had to stop because I felt so disgusting. I'm trying to work through it, but things are so much easier said than done.
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That's really hard, I understand what you're going through. Your skin should firm up some after a while. Pregnancy is pretty hard on our skin, but it does get better after time. As far as intimacy goes (I totally get the embarrassment, me too), could you wear a fitted cami or something like that? I know that sex with clothes on isn't as much fun, but it's better (for everyone!) than no sex at all. I'm usually more comfortable and therefore more relaxed if I have a top on. Just something to think about. You could also ask DH not to touch the spots that make you embarrassed. DH doesn't touch my stomach much because he knows how tense it makes me.
Hugs, my dear lady. It will get better, give it some time.
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"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly..."
Weight loss on hold while I'm pregnant with baby #3, due June 2012.
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02-23-2011, 08:45 PM
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On a Mission
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I also wanted to add. I think that it's so stressful for a first-time Mom to meet her post-baby bod. It's nerve-racking. Even if you find that you like some parts there is always an adjustment period for the little things that we won't care for. It was really hard to see myself get stretchmarks all over my stomach. I have an overhang from c-sections that I probably can never work off and I am unfortunately not a candidate for surgery to help. I guess I just decided to be ok with it one day and to work on it instead of letting it rob me of any joy. As for your hubby, he doesn't care and isn't trying to find flaws. He loves you and I am sure he is so busy doing other things at *that* moment, no negative thought about you would ever cross his mind. Seriously. He's making love to you dear, he doesn't care about what you think is flawed. Just like a jiggle here or there wouldn't affect your love for him, it won't affect his love for you. You can tell him about your issues right now so he understands where you're coming from but don't expect him to agree b/c what he sees is someone he loves who just gave him a child and he wants to make love to that beautiful woman.
I do remember the post-baby bod-shock feeling all too well and it taking a while to adjust. The thing is you can't shut yourself off, you have to get in there and have some fun. It may take a little bit to feel better but please don't short your self of the blissful intimacy that a healthy marriage can bring. Let your hubby nurture and reassure you through this transition. He obviously adores you so I am sure he'd be happy to soothe you. 
BTW Didn't you know him when you were heavy to begin with?
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Calorie counting gave me a method to fix the madness.
A high protein, moderate carb balance gives me control over cravings.
Last edited by 4star : 02-23-2011 at 08:53 PM.
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02-23-2011, 10:02 PM
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By God's Grace
Join Date: May 2007
Location: New Mexico
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Originally Posted by 4star
b/c what he sees is someone he loves who just gave him a child and he wants to make love to that beautiful woman. |
^^ Definitely what 4 star said and to this part I'd like to add that when men see women naked they don't seem to register stretch marks or jiggly bits... they pretty much register "NAKED!!... BOOBIES!!... ETC!!" They don't see the flaws we do.
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"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly..."
Weight loss on hold while I'm pregnant with baby #3, due June 2012.
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02-24-2011, 07:55 AM
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On a Mission
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Originally Posted by Gale02
^^ Definitely what 4 star said and to this part I'd like to add that when men see women naked they don't seem to register stretch marks or jiggly bits... they pretty much register "NAKED!!... BOOBIES!!... ETC!!" They don't see the flaws we do. |
I read a study to that effect once. It highlighted what men think and feel when they are aroused and it was only the sexually arousing parts that mattered everything else went out of focus into the background. My hubby even told me I can buy lingerie if I feel like putting a bow on the package but all he's really concerned with is the gift. There's also incentive for that gifting as it's just keeps getting better the longer we're together.
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Calorie counting gave me a method to fix the madness.
A high protein, moderate carb balance gives me control over cravings.
Last edited by 4star : 02-24-2011 at 07:55 AM.
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02-24-2011, 09:55 AM
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By God's Grace
Join Date: May 2007
Location: New Mexico
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Quote:
Originally Posted by 4star
I read a study to that effect once. It highlighted what men think and feel when they are aroused and it was only the sexually arousing parts that mattered everything else went out of focus into the background. My hubby even told me I can buy lingerie if I feel like putting a bow on the package but all he's really concerned with is the gift. There's also incentive for that gifting as it's just keeps getting better the longer we're together. |
I have a cousin who went lingerie shopping with her husband once. She asked him if he liked one of the pieces. He took it, dropped it on the floor into a little pile, looked at it and said "Yeah, it looks good." 
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"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly..."
Weight loss on hold while I'm pregnant with baby #3, due June 2012.
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03-03-2011, 01:06 AM
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Beauty, Brawn and Brains!
Join Date: Jul 2002
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Yes, my boyfriend's requirement for lingerie is, "Does it come off quickly?"
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